Michelle_B
New Member
My daughter has standard visitation with her father (every other weekend, every other Tuesday night, two weeks in the summer and holidays). She is 10 years old, and is at the age where she loves being involved in activities at her school and at our church. SHe is currently on the basketball team (3rd year) at our church and is a member of Fifth Notes(the fifth grade choir at her school).............MY PROBLEM is ......her father refuses to be involved in these activities....He does not take her to any practices and makes her feel guilty for having such things on "HIS" weekend or weeknight. He tells her it is an inconvinience to his wife and him to have to drag her to these activities (he lives 30 minutes away from her school and church).....last year I had to drive to his house on Saturday mornings to get her for practices and games and then take her back to him because he refused to take her. She missed her tournament game for her basketball team last year because they planned a trip to the zoo. .....I can empathize with them about feeling like these activities take alot of time BUT they do NOT last all year (basketball is only November through March) and these are all things that are beneficial to our daughter's future and education.
I have read over our parenting plan and it seem there is nothing in there that says he HAS to take her to her activities(only that i have to give him 24 hrs notice of any activities)....am i missing this part....or am i being unreasonable in thinking he should be more involved.
Also if he refuses to take her to a practice or games and she wants to go, would i be wrong if I did not make her go to his house.
I have read over our parenting plan and it seem there is nothing in there that says he HAS to take her to her activities(only that i have to give him 24 hrs notice of any activities)....am i missing this part....or am i being unreasonable in thinking he should be more involved.
Also if he refuses to take her to a practice or games and she wants to go, would i be wrong if I did not make her go to his house.