a mother giving up rights

[mmcs74]

I have a question, first I ask please do not judge, I'm really torn about this. Please just read.
12 years ago I was in a very abusive marraige and later got out and now am very happy and have started over due to all of this.
In my past marraige I lost 3 beautiful children that were my life to the state and then my exes family. I have been wrongly accused on so many levels. I became powerless after years of fighting for my right. I have been paying child support for years and not been able to see my children, well just recently back in May 2009 I lost my job and since have not been able to pay child support. I have made payments as I was able to do so, and now its so far behind. Oh also i live in another state now as I said I started over, its a really long story. I have recieved a letter in the mail from my support officer that they have set up a court hearing and if I do not show up they will send a bench warrent for my arrest................. I have been in contact with my support officer. At this point my hands are tied, I can't seem to find a job and if I dont pay I go to jail. I get that. What I want to know is that if I give up my rights for children that I have not seen in almost 12 years, will I stll have to pay child support?
Again please don't judge me, I am really torn about this. I have two kids here and a man that loves me and because of my past I could lose it all. Help me please!!!

Thank you.

 

[jharris352]

Unless they release you from the child support order your surrender of parental rights will not nullify your child support duties.

 

[Proserpina]

I have a question, first I ask please do not judge, I'm really torn about this. Please just read.
12 years ago I was in a very abusive marraige and later got out and now am very happy and have started over due to all of this.
In my past marraige I lost 3 beautiful children that were my life to the state and then my exes family. I have been wrongly accused on so many levels. I became powerless after years of fighting for my right. I have been paying child support for years and not been able to see my children, well just recently back in May 2009 I lost my job and since have not been able to pay child support. I have made payments as I was able to do so, and now its so far behind. Oh also i live in another state now as I said I started over, its a really long story. I have recieved a letter in the mail from my support officer that they have set up a court hearing and if I do not show up they will send a bench warrent for my arrest................. I have been in contact with my support officer. At this point my hands are tied, I can't seem to find a job and if I dont pay I go to jail. I get that. What I want to know is that if I give up my rights for children that I have not seen in almost 12 years, will I stll have to pay child support?
Again please don't judge me, I am really torn about this. I have two kids here and a man that loves me and because of my past I could lose it all. Help me please!!!

Thank you.

Why haven't you filed to modify the child support?

(since you lost your job)

 

[mmcs74]

I tried to modify it and I also tried to work with the child support agency, and also tried to find a job,
I am still trying to find a job. Now it is just so out of control and I'm really lost. I've been up all night about this. Is there anything I can do at this point that will keep me out of jail? The hearing is in another state and I do not have the financial means to be there.

 

[jharris352]

How cooperative is the other parent. Are you fighting enemies or is their any chance they would just let you step out of the picture? Getting their consent would be the easiest path to this.