Steven Taylor
New Member
- Jurisdiction
- Texas
I work in retail, and my wife is disabled with a brain disease, bad knees, diabetes and other health issues. We have a 17 yr old son who, for the past 2 yrs, has continued to do marijuana and bring it in our home and his usage continues to escalate. He also has a bad habit of hanging out with the wrong crowd. We've tried moving 3 times in the past 2 yrs to get him away from them, but he always ends up around the same kind of people. He has a really bad attitude, is narcissistic and manipulative and has zero respect for my wife and I. We've tried just about everything to get him to straighten up including taking away his games, phone, computer, having him work at a food bank and a childrens zoo, grounding him from going to friends', etc. Nothing has worked. About 4 wks ago, he went to spend the night at a friend's house. The next day, the dad came over here to our apt banging on the door, screaming and cussing and telling my wife to open the door so he could beat up our son for stealing his drugs and $500 of cash from his wallet. I was at work and couldnt do anything, and my wife was scared to death and called the cops to come and run him off. The ordeal was extremely stressful on us, especially my wife. This has been one of our biggest fears with him, that he would upset bad people and cause them to come to our home and hurt us. I have to be at work 5 days a week and cant always be here to protect my disabled wife. Last weekend we decided to allow him to stay a couple of nights at a friend's house who he's known for many yrs and who has good parents. While he was gone, I searched his room and found empty marijuana packaging of various kinds, some of which were of the felony variety. When I picked him up a couple of days ago, I began questioning him about his drug use, and I told him to be completely honest. He decided to lie about it. I calmly, without raising my voice, lectured him about the whole situation. On the way, I could tell he had something in his right sock cause he kept messing with it. When we arrived home, I asked to see his backpack so I could search it. He handed it to me, but, then, without me asking, he began pulling out his pockets, taking off his shirt and pulling off his shoes. I told him at that point to take off his socks. When he did, I heard something hit the ground. I asked him what it was and he denied there was anything. He grabbed my phone so he could video under the car to show me. At that point, I got out to go around and look. He met me around at the back right side of the vehicle, where he finally admitted that he had a felony drug device in his hand. I asked him for it, and he bowed his chest up at me and raised his voice and said no and that he was not going to prison. He then said he was going to throw it away in a nearby dumpster. I told him if he threw it away, he needed to go inside and call someone to go stay with. He said okay and went and threw it away. When we got inside the apt with my wife, I lost it and started yelling at him to call someone to come get him and that he couldn't keep putting his mom in danger and bringing that crap in our home and disrespecting us the way he does. We were both yelling and cursing at each other at this point. I know I shouldn't have cussed at him, but I was just extremely angry. My wife and I are Christians and don't normally act that way. I asked him for the backpack so I could go ahead and search it, but he bowed up his chest at me and said no cause it was his property and he was leaving. I just let him keep it because I wasn't going to get physical with him. He packed up his stuff and took off. Last night, my wife told him if he straightened up, he could come home, but he is saying he doesn't want to. He also told my wife he is going to the cops to report us for kicking him out of the house since he's a minor. We are at a loss and have no idea what to do about him. We need legal advice on what our options are. Please let us know. Thanks.