My 17 year old son got caught destroying someone's property. I am the non-custodial parent. His mother and I have been to court a few times for his case. I was asked to fill out financial documents, as was his mother. She told the court that she does not have a job, but I know for a fact that she sells Mary Kay and is cleaning houses for money on the side. The court told her if she is not working she did not need to fill out the documents My son has an insurance settlement of $40,000 that he will receive on his 18th birthday. His Mom has taken $20,000 out of the settlement in order to purchase a car for him, so he now has $20,000 remaining. At the last hearing the judge asked me if I would be able to pay. I told him that I would not be able to pay as I have another household to maintain, and alot of medical bills, and child support. The judge told me that was irrelevant. The court ordered that my son pay restitution ($8,000) when he turns 18 out of his settlement. I have the feeling that his mother will draw out the money on his birthday and it will be spent before he pays his restitution. The judge said that if restitution is not paid a week after his birthday that a bench warrant will be put out for him. I think my son and his mother are trying to hang me with the bill, which I cannot afford. They were both mad at me for telling the judge that he had a settlement. I have not had a good relationship w/ either of them for 5 years. My son rarely visits and has told me that he doe not like coming to my house because I have rules and his Mom has none. What can I do to make sure that my son uses his settlement to pay this off? How can I prove that his Mom has income? I want my son to learn a lesson, which he will not if someone else has to pay for his mistakes. I appreciate any help!!