I am a single mother of a 2 1/2 year old girl. The father and I were never married. We went to court when she was a few weeks old and, because of his history of drug use and abusive behavior towards me and others he was restricted to 4 hrs a week supervised visitation. After a year, my lawyer told me since there had been no incident I had better prepare to go to standard visitation. So instead of fighting in court, I slowly increased the visitation to ease my daughter into the situation. We had a hearing scheduled several weeks ago for the final orders, but he and his lawyer decided to settle out in the hallway (he had been making wild threats of fighting for 50/50 custody for months). For some reason, unknown to me, they agreed to lift one of the restrictions on my residency restriction. Normally if I wanted to leave the county with my daughter, I would have to prove that there is a substantial material change (not clear on the exact wording or meaning of that one), and that it is in the child's best interest. Well, they agreed and signed the orders to take off the first restriction. Now I only have to prove it is in my daughter's best interest.
A little history: a couple months before, I was trying to negotiate a change in residency restriction so that I could move to Austin for a job. This would be approximately 85 miles away from my current residence. The father fought it, regardless of the benefit to my daughter, and before we could go to court the employer got tired of waiting and hired someone else. I don't know if this is why they agreed to lift half of the restriction. The father now denies knowledge of agreeing to this, even though previously he said if I got a really good job offer he would agree to the move.
The issue now is that I have a really good job offer, only it is in Louisiana. It is a full time job, I would make over 7k more a year, plus full health benefits (I am uninsured). I would be able to insure my daughter if her father lost benefits. I would be able to set up a life insurance policy, and a college savings fund for my daughter. I would be able to afford a two bedroom apartment, where just the two of us could live. Right now we are renting a room from friends. The position is also at a large, respected university where I would be able to finish my degree for free. I currently am halfway through and cannot afford to pay tuition any longer. The position is at a scientific facility which would pay to have me trained and certified in many different areas, increasing my ability to advance and gain higher pay. I have secured a stable, safe place to live with an older couple in a safe neighborhood where I can pay month to month while I look at apartments in the area. I have a few family members in town (in LA) and a few friends as well. There are several more family members living an hour away. I would be moving away from my parents, her father, and his parents. I realize that is not the perfect situation, but I believe on the whole it will allow me to best provide for my daughter. I have applied all over our city to no avail, nobody has offered me anything close to a full time position, much less a position of this quality.
My question is, what the heck are my chances here? I would think with the economy and job situation the way it is, judges would be forced to be understanding of people that have to move for job related reasons. Like I said, I applied all over my city, as well as in Houston, and a few jobs in Louisiana. The ONLY PEOPLE I heard back from were 2 employers in LA. Right now I am working 2 part time jobs and barely making ends meet. But I have managed to stay off government assistance and want to continue to do so. What can I do to help prove my case to a judge? Has anyone out there had a similar experience?
A little history: a couple months before, I was trying to negotiate a change in residency restriction so that I could move to Austin for a job. This would be approximately 85 miles away from my current residence. The father fought it, regardless of the benefit to my daughter, and before we could go to court the employer got tired of waiting and hired someone else. I don't know if this is why they agreed to lift half of the restriction. The father now denies knowledge of agreeing to this, even though previously he said if I got a really good job offer he would agree to the move.
The issue now is that I have a really good job offer, only it is in Louisiana. It is a full time job, I would make over 7k more a year, plus full health benefits (I am uninsured). I would be able to insure my daughter if her father lost benefits. I would be able to set up a life insurance policy, and a college savings fund for my daughter. I would be able to afford a two bedroom apartment, where just the two of us could live. Right now we are renting a room from friends. The position is also at a large, respected university where I would be able to finish my degree for free. I currently am halfway through and cannot afford to pay tuition any longer. The position is at a scientific facility which would pay to have me trained and certified in many different areas, increasing my ability to advance and gain higher pay. I have secured a stable, safe place to live with an older couple in a safe neighborhood where I can pay month to month while I look at apartments in the area. I have a few family members in town (in LA) and a few friends as well. There are several more family members living an hour away. I would be moving away from my parents, her father, and his parents. I realize that is not the perfect situation, but I believe on the whole it will allow me to best provide for my daughter. I have applied all over our city to no avail, nobody has offered me anything close to a full time position, much less a position of this quality.
My question is, what the heck are my chances here? I would think with the economy and job situation the way it is, judges would be forced to be understanding of people that have to move for job related reasons. Like I said, I applied all over my city, as well as in Houston, and a few jobs in Louisiana. The ONLY PEOPLE I heard back from were 2 employers in LA. Right now I am working 2 part time jobs and barely making ends meet. But I have managed to stay off government assistance and want to continue to do so. What can I do to help prove my case to a judge? Has anyone out there had a similar experience?