Inkognegro
New Member
- Jurisdiction
- Oklahoma
Hi, I signed over my parental rights back in 2016 for my younger 4 children.
The case opened because I was with a woman who had a 3-month-year-old child that passed away from SIDS in his playpen. I wasn't involved with DHS until we had our child together 9 months after her 3-month-old passed away.
Mother was considered a threat of harm at the time until the autopsy results came back exactly one year later after the death date. When our child was born, CPS attempted to come in and inform us that she was going to a foster home from the hospital. I simply asked the caseworker why I wasn't being considered as a place to go home to if I wasn't part of her case and I am the biological father by acknowledgment of paternity. The caseworker turned things around and said that she would have to come to my home and inspect it and interview everyone in the home. She came and everything was clear. She set me down to talk to me and she asked me what my future plans were. I told her that my first child doesn't have biological siblings so I wanted to continue to have children with the woman I just had a daughter with so that my daughter could have biological siblings.
The caseworker manipulated what I said and told the court that if CPS gave me my daughter, that I admitted I would have her around her mother who was considered a threat of harm and I was charged with failure to protect and neglect, forced to quit college causing me to withdraw early and owing a $3,000 debt, and gave me an ISP plan.
This case went on for 3 years..
We continued to have kids during this time, a set of twin boys and another daughter. Though I was completing everything on my ISP as instructed, mother was having a hard time completing her ISP because she was still grieving over the loss of her kids. There was no domestic violence or drugs of any kind related to my case, just the charges of failure to protect and neglect.
CPS never updated the juvenile court with my accomplishments on my ISP and they got scolded by the judge a couple of times for this. It came to a point to where they motioned to terminate my parental rights, I chose to take it to jury trial, and they set a mediation.
I was told I was going to be able to sit down and have one-on-one time with the judge and provide my accomplishments to her.
Instead, they took me to an annex building outside of the courthouse, a trailer actually. The judge was not available that day and they had another woman replacing her spot and she was not a juvenile court judge. I never even got the chance to submit my accomplishments because the topic transitioned immediately to signing over my parental rights.
From the beginning I firmly told them "no I want to continue to take it to trial."
My appointed attorney kept calling for a break, so she could take me outside to convince me to sign over my rights. She did this three times, and on the third time she gave me an ultimatum. She told me that if I lost my trial and my rights were terminated for my youngest four kids in the case, that I would also lose my parental rights to my first born son who had nothing to do with the case... She told me if I signed over my rights for my youngest four kids that I could still have parental rights for my first born son. She also informed me that natural mother had already signed over her rights.. me and natural mother did not have the same attorney and I don't think she should have been telling me that.
The foster parents lied and said that they would make my kids Facebook accounts and email accounts so that I could watch them grow and keep in contact.. I haven't heard from or seen my kids since then.
Cornered and pressured, I signed over my parental rights. I spent the next 7 days typing up a 14 Page letter and I sent it to my appointed attorney telling them that I had made a mistake and that I want to take away my signature.
I was never responded to and the adoption process continued until it happened.
The case opened because I was with a woman who had a 3-month-year-old child that passed away from SIDS in his playpen. I wasn't involved with DHS until we had our child together 9 months after her 3-month-old passed away.
Mother was considered a threat of harm at the time until the autopsy results came back exactly one year later after the death date. When our child was born, CPS attempted to come in and inform us that she was going to a foster home from the hospital. I simply asked the caseworker why I wasn't being considered as a place to go home to if I wasn't part of her case and I am the biological father by acknowledgment of paternity. The caseworker turned things around and said that she would have to come to my home and inspect it and interview everyone in the home. She came and everything was clear. She set me down to talk to me and she asked me what my future plans were. I told her that my first child doesn't have biological siblings so I wanted to continue to have children with the woman I just had a daughter with so that my daughter could have biological siblings.
The caseworker manipulated what I said and told the court that if CPS gave me my daughter, that I admitted I would have her around her mother who was considered a threat of harm and I was charged with failure to protect and neglect, forced to quit college causing me to withdraw early and owing a $3,000 debt, and gave me an ISP plan.
This case went on for 3 years..
We continued to have kids during this time, a set of twin boys and another daughter. Though I was completing everything on my ISP as instructed, mother was having a hard time completing her ISP because she was still grieving over the loss of her kids. There was no domestic violence or drugs of any kind related to my case, just the charges of failure to protect and neglect.
CPS never updated the juvenile court with my accomplishments on my ISP and they got scolded by the judge a couple of times for this. It came to a point to where they motioned to terminate my parental rights, I chose to take it to jury trial, and they set a mediation.
I was told I was going to be able to sit down and have one-on-one time with the judge and provide my accomplishments to her.
Instead, they took me to an annex building outside of the courthouse, a trailer actually. The judge was not available that day and they had another woman replacing her spot and she was not a juvenile court judge. I never even got the chance to submit my accomplishments because the topic transitioned immediately to signing over my parental rights.
From the beginning I firmly told them "no I want to continue to take it to trial."
My appointed attorney kept calling for a break, so she could take me outside to convince me to sign over my rights. She did this three times, and on the third time she gave me an ultimatum. She told me that if I lost my trial and my rights were terminated for my youngest four kids in the case, that I would also lose my parental rights to my first born son who had nothing to do with the case... She told me if I signed over my rights for my youngest four kids that I could still have parental rights for my first born son. She also informed me that natural mother had already signed over her rights.. me and natural mother did not have the same attorney and I don't think she should have been telling me that.
The foster parents lied and said that they would make my kids Facebook accounts and email accounts so that I could watch them grow and keep in contact.. I haven't heard from or seen my kids since then.
Cornered and pressured, I signed over my parental rights. I spent the next 7 days typing up a 14 Page letter and I sent it to my appointed attorney telling them that I had made a mistake and that I want to take away my signature.
I was never responded to and the adoption process continued until it happened.
