Ok, some may have to read my other thread to see what is going on but;
I have plans to return to Michigan Mid July to avoid my ex from trying to take full physical custody of my children.
My externship starts next week, and should only take 4-6 weeks.
As far as a job when I return to Michigan, I don't know how long it will take for me to find one.
It's unfortunate, because I am being placed in a great externship, one most grads want with the hopes of a hire, but I cannot take a job offer.
As of now, we have Joint legal/physical custody according to court papers, although obviously I have not had them 50% of this year as of yet.
Because of my hasty return to Michigan, finances are going to be very hard.
I had hoped to take an offered position from my externship for about 6 months, just to have that experience, make it easier to find a job.
But because of my Ex, constantly filing papers against me, I need to get home. I have been out here for 9 months now. Mid august will be one year.
Our agreement states that when I return to Michigan, we will submit to mediation for child support and the exact arrangement of our 50/50.
Now Im returning to michigan, most likely without a job initially, and I will have to stay with my brother. My brothers home will not have space for my kids.
I want to be able to rent right in the district my children are in right now ( I dont want them changing districts again).
I would be able to get into a place, but without a job yet, and No Child support, I wouldnt be able to maintain.
I am hoping to get a job and make about 1500.00 cleared (realistically), my ex makes 5000.00 mo. He just found a job last month.
I will be getting married soon, But my Fiance' will be staying in California until the position at the plant opens for him in March of 2011.
Therefore he will still be paying rent and bills out here, and will be limited in what he can contribute and help me with.
Im assuming if I went to mediation right after I returned, without a job or a place that they wont do anything?
I need child support from my ex, to ensure that I can pay rent and bills. I just dont know what to do.
If I could trust him, I would stay here a bit longer, get some good work experience, and make it easier on all of us financially.
I had even talked with my ex about this, told him that if I did this, I would send him a few hundred dollars a month for the kids. I didn't know he had already put in for a child support review. (the review was denied since he didnt follow the court orders that were agreed upon)
That arrangement would have worked out the best for all of us, financially, now I'm afraid of him trying again to get full custody of the kids, and therefore will be dependant somewhat on him for child support.
Ok, so what do I do.
Can I ask for child support when I return, It's the only way I can afford a place for me and my kids right now, especially if it takes me a month or two to find a job.
Will they not award anything to me because I dont have a home. Ugh the more I think about it, the more angry I get. I have a feeling he will make us go to mediation the second I return, before I can set anything up, and take the kids, and have me paying child support to him. 1500.00 a month, yeah half of that gone, I can forget about ever getting a place for me and my kids. Dammit. I don't know what to do. I cant afford a lawyer, I will barely have enough money to get home.
Im so frustrated, its starting to feel like I spent this 9 months away from my kids for nothing, that it will all backfire on me. Maybe I should have just stayed, and sucked up welfare for a while, at least I wouldn't be worrying about losing my kids now!
I have plans to return to Michigan Mid July to avoid my ex from trying to take full physical custody of my children.
My externship starts next week, and should only take 4-6 weeks.
As far as a job when I return to Michigan, I don't know how long it will take for me to find one.
It's unfortunate, because I am being placed in a great externship, one most grads want with the hopes of a hire, but I cannot take a job offer.
As of now, we have Joint legal/physical custody according to court papers, although obviously I have not had them 50% of this year as of yet.
Because of my hasty return to Michigan, finances are going to be very hard.
I had hoped to take an offered position from my externship for about 6 months, just to have that experience, make it easier to find a job.
But because of my Ex, constantly filing papers against me, I need to get home. I have been out here for 9 months now. Mid august will be one year.
Our agreement states that when I return to Michigan, we will submit to mediation for child support and the exact arrangement of our 50/50.
Now Im returning to michigan, most likely without a job initially, and I will have to stay with my brother. My brothers home will not have space for my kids.
I want to be able to rent right in the district my children are in right now ( I dont want them changing districts again).
I would be able to get into a place, but without a job yet, and No Child support, I wouldnt be able to maintain.
I am hoping to get a job and make about 1500.00 cleared (realistically), my ex makes 5000.00 mo. He just found a job last month.
I will be getting married soon, But my Fiance' will be staying in California until the position at the plant opens for him in March of 2011.
Therefore he will still be paying rent and bills out here, and will be limited in what he can contribute and help me with.
Im assuming if I went to mediation right after I returned, without a job or a place that they wont do anything?
I need child support from my ex, to ensure that I can pay rent and bills. I just dont know what to do.
If I could trust him, I would stay here a bit longer, get some good work experience, and make it easier on all of us financially.
I had even talked with my ex about this, told him that if I did this, I would send him a few hundred dollars a month for the kids. I didn't know he had already put in for a child support review. (the review was denied since he didnt follow the court orders that were agreed upon)
That arrangement would have worked out the best for all of us, financially, now I'm afraid of him trying again to get full custody of the kids, and therefore will be dependant somewhat on him for child support.
Ok, so what do I do.
Can I ask for child support when I return, It's the only way I can afford a place for me and my kids right now, especially if it takes me a month or two to find a job.
Will they not award anything to me because I dont have a home. Ugh the more I think about it, the more angry I get. I have a feeling he will make us go to mediation the second I return, before I can set anything up, and take the kids, and have me paying child support to him. 1500.00 a month, yeah half of that gone, I can forget about ever getting a place for me and my kids. Dammit. I don't know what to do. I cant afford a lawyer, I will barely have enough money to get home.
Im so frustrated, its starting to feel like I spent this 9 months away from my kids for nothing, that it will all backfire on me. Maybe I should have just stayed, and sucked up welfare for a while, at least I wouldn't be worrying about losing my kids now!