I have a question. My daughter will be 9 in March. Her biological father has had absolutely nothing to do with her since she has been born. We established paternity when she was almost three years old and that's when he was added to the birth certificate. He suddenly walked into her life about three weeks ago and wants to be in her life. I am willing for him to have visitation with her 2 days a week and every other weekend. I wanted to do it supervised for the first 6 months. When we were in high school, he was very heavily into drugs and alcohol. He claims that he has changed, however I was able to go online and found out that he has a misdemeanor drug charge (marijuana) as recent as last month (11/24). He also wants to start paying child support of $300 a month. Then he wants to claim her on her taxes for it to be "fair" since he will be paying all that money. He has NEVER given us a dime in the last 8 years. I want to know how the court would rule. We are trying to keep it out of court since we both agree it would be traumatic. I told him that the only reason why I wanted visitation to be that way for the first 6 months is the fact that she doesnt know him or his family at all. What I wanted is sole custody of her and I feel that I have a right to that since he has had absolutely nothing to do with her whatsoever. I have never moved out of state and I was able to be located very easily. I feel that his wife now (we were NEVER married) is pushing him to do this and pushing me to get all of the things that they think they have the rights too. As in every other weekend, holidays, and 2 weeks in the summer. She is 8 years old. Wouldnt the courts do supervised visitation for some time before she would be able to stay with them? How hard would it be for me to keep sole custody? What is the difference between sole custody and physical sole custody? I am willing to reassess the visitation situation after 6 months. If my daughter wants to stay there than it would be fine, but as of right now he is a complete stranger to her. I dont feel that he should be able to claim her on his tax returns at all because like I said, he hasn't paid a dime for any support whatsoever. Also what is the percentage of child support he would have to pay in VA? I want to make sure that my daughter isnt being put through any more hardships than she already has been in the last 8 years since he hasnt been around. Can anyone help me? How would the courts rule in a situation like this?