thumperx2
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Sorry new to the forum.....bear with me this is a very long post....but I felt I needed to put down as much information as possible to obtain a clear answer......
I live in Orange County California. I am the mother of a 13year old child. From her birth her bio-father has claimed no responsibility for her, no child support ect. He has only seen her approx 10-20 times in the first year of her life. The bio-father then moved out of state. I then met & married my husband. The bio-father contacted me when my child was approx 3 years old, It had been over 2 years since any contact from him was made. My husband and I then decided it was time to proceed with a step-parent adoption. The bio-father at first refused to coperate, because of this I proceeded to have his rights terminated, before the end of the adoption the Bio-father signed a denial of paternity and a consent to adoption. Apperently from what our lawyer had told us, the Bio-father didn't sign at first because he was concerned that he would still be obligated for child support. After the adoption was finialized, everything was quite for 3 years then Bio-father decided to attemp contacting me and my daughter again. This time my husband contacted him directly and advised him that he had no rights to be contacting us. All was quite again for 6years this time. Now my daughter is 13years old, she does not know she is adopted. Before anyone posts how they do not believe in hiding an adoption, let me just say that my husband & I have had long discussions regarding this, we both decided as parents to wait until our daughter is 18 years old to disclose this to her. Simple fact at that age she will be able to understand and act on her own behalf as an adult if she chooses to track down Bio-Father. We feel this is the best decision for her at this time. Now Bio-Father is threatening contacting my daughter to disclose the adpotion, is there anything I can do legally to protect my child from this "Stranger"?Is it possible to obtain something of a no contact order? Also Bio-Fathers family members, mother, sisters ect are also beginning to harrass me, and they all live here in the same county as my daughter, it would not be hard to find me or my daughter. Is there anything I can do to stop the family members also?
TIA
I live in Orange County California. I am the mother of a 13year old child. From her birth her bio-father has claimed no responsibility for her, no child support ect. He has only seen her approx 10-20 times in the first year of her life. The bio-father then moved out of state. I then met & married my husband. The bio-father contacted me when my child was approx 3 years old, It had been over 2 years since any contact from him was made. My husband and I then decided it was time to proceed with a step-parent adoption. The bio-father at first refused to coperate, because of this I proceeded to have his rights terminated, before the end of the adoption the Bio-father signed a denial of paternity and a consent to adoption. Apperently from what our lawyer had told us, the Bio-father didn't sign at first because he was concerned that he would still be obligated for child support. After the adoption was finialized, everything was quite for 3 years then Bio-father decided to attemp contacting me and my daughter again. This time my husband contacted him directly and advised him that he had no rights to be contacting us. All was quite again for 6years this time. Now my daughter is 13years old, she does not know she is adopted. Before anyone posts how they do not believe in hiding an adoption, let me just say that my husband & I have had long discussions regarding this, we both decided as parents to wait until our daughter is 18 years old to disclose this to her. Simple fact at that age she will be able to understand and act on her own behalf as an adult if she chooses to track down Bio-Father. We feel this is the best decision for her at this time. Now Bio-Father is threatening contacting my daughter to disclose the adpotion, is there anything I can do legally to protect my child from this "Stranger"?Is it possible to obtain something of a no contact order? Also Bio-Fathers family members, mother, sisters ect are also beginning to harrass me, and they all live here in the same county as my daughter, it would not be hard to find me or my daughter. Is there anything I can do to stop the family members also?
TIA
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