- Jurisdiction
- Pennsylvania
I feel like I'm at the end of the rope with the current situation with my wife and that divorce is the only foreseeable outcome. We have been together for almost 8 years but have only been married for less than 2. We have had our issues like most people but nothing I felt we couldn't get past.
Back in July, I found out she has been having inappropriate conversations with other men online. She has never met them, but she has expressed multiple times her desire to do so. I found out when we where in bed and I saw one asking her for pictures of her in bed. I confronted her the next morning and was told that it was a one time thing and that she had already blocked and deleted him. That was a lie. After another week of seeing her constantly having conversations I dug into it a little deeper. She was having multiple conversations. To date, she has now had chats with over 50 different, unique accounts across 7 different social media and chat applications. She knows I have seen what she's doing. We have had multiple fights about it. Of course, it's all my fault. She claims she has and is doing nothing wrong. She tells them how much she loves. Things she wants to do to them. That she wants to marry them and be with them forever. She does nothing but say all these bad things I do, nothing violent. How I have constantly wronged her and killed her dreams. Everyone we know always tells her that she is wrong about that. She is just unable to accept responsibility for her own actions. To her, nothing is ever her fault. She has told me many times she would stop these chats, but nothing has stopped to date.
Now here's the real shock. They are all scammers. They all claim to be celebrities or musicians. Joe Elliot and Rick Savage of Def Leppard are the two most used. Also Rick Allen of Def Leppard, Nikki Sixx of Motley Crue, and Harrison Ford. She'll be talking to multiple people with the same name at the same time. She says she's trying to figure out which one is the real one. She is already certain that two are real. They almost always ask her for something. Usually it's gift cards or money thru something like cashapp to pay for a "fan card or membership" so that they can be together. She only recently sent something to any of them. This past weekend she sent out a $20 steam gift card and a $50 amazon card to two of them. She's also assuring them that she will be sending them more, along with a couple others. I've gotten her mother involved in this and a couple good friends. She refuses to listen to anyone, and tells the scammers how much she hates us and loves them because of how we're treating her. I've also talked to her psychiatrist and therapist. That was after a fight where she tried to get violent.
I really don't know what options I have at this point beyond removing myself from this entirely. Hence the possibility of divorce. I don't see her making this easy with her current state of mind. I expect it to be a fight. I just don't know if I have enough grounds for an at fault divorce, or if I really need to convince her for no fault mutual consent. We have no kids. The house is in my name only, bought before our marriage. Same with our only vehicle. I do have records of everything that's been going on. Complete chat logs, photos, screenshots, etc. I just don't know how much of it I can use against her.
So what's your take on all this.
Thank you.
Back in July, I found out she has been having inappropriate conversations with other men online. She has never met them, but she has expressed multiple times her desire to do so. I found out when we where in bed and I saw one asking her for pictures of her in bed. I confronted her the next morning and was told that it was a one time thing and that she had already blocked and deleted him. That was a lie. After another week of seeing her constantly having conversations I dug into it a little deeper. She was having multiple conversations. To date, she has now had chats with over 50 different, unique accounts across 7 different social media and chat applications. She knows I have seen what she's doing. We have had multiple fights about it. Of course, it's all my fault. She claims she has and is doing nothing wrong. She tells them how much she loves. Things she wants to do to them. That she wants to marry them and be with them forever. She does nothing but say all these bad things I do, nothing violent. How I have constantly wronged her and killed her dreams. Everyone we know always tells her that she is wrong about that. She is just unable to accept responsibility for her own actions. To her, nothing is ever her fault. She has told me many times she would stop these chats, but nothing has stopped to date.
Now here's the real shock. They are all scammers. They all claim to be celebrities or musicians. Joe Elliot and Rick Savage of Def Leppard are the two most used. Also Rick Allen of Def Leppard, Nikki Sixx of Motley Crue, and Harrison Ford. She'll be talking to multiple people with the same name at the same time. She says she's trying to figure out which one is the real one. She is already certain that two are real. They almost always ask her for something. Usually it's gift cards or money thru something like cashapp to pay for a "fan card or membership" so that they can be together. She only recently sent something to any of them. This past weekend she sent out a $20 steam gift card and a $50 amazon card to two of them. She's also assuring them that she will be sending them more, along with a couple others. I've gotten her mother involved in this and a couple good friends. She refuses to listen to anyone, and tells the scammers how much she hates us and loves them because of how we're treating her. I've also talked to her psychiatrist and therapist. That was after a fight where she tried to get violent.
I really don't know what options I have at this point beyond removing myself from this entirely. Hence the possibility of divorce. I don't see her making this easy with her current state of mind. I expect it to be a fight. I just don't know if I have enough grounds for an at fault divorce, or if I really need to convince her for no fault mutual consent. We have no kids. The house is in my name only, bought before our marriage. Same with our only vehicle. I do have records of everything that's been going on. Complete chat logs, photos, screenshots, etc. I just don't know how much of it I can use against her.
So what's your take on all this.
Thank you.
