My jurisdiction is: North Carolina
My son's father is a resident of Tennesse and I am a resident of NC. Apparently, in TN when child support is ordered and praternity has been established, they practically let the father decide what the child's last name is. I am his mother and he has had my last name since he was born (he is two yrs old now). His father and I were never married, engaged..ect. We weren't even together throughout the entire pregnancy...I found out two days after we split up. I've spent two years trying to get child support and now when its ordered, his father decides to just change my son's last name. I don't understand how he can do this WITHOUT MY PERMISSION when my son has always lived with me, always had my last name, his father has only seen him maybe 4 or 5 times, and we were never married. I have a hearing coming up next week because I appealed the decision to change my son's last name. Is this a common occurance...does the father usually get to decide the last name no matter what the mother(who has always been the custodial parent) says? Or do I have a legitimate argument against this name change?
My son's father is a resident of Tennesse and I am a resident of NC. Apparently, in TN when child support is ordered and praternity has been established, they practically let the father decide what the child's last name is. I am his mother and he has had my last name since he was born (he is two yrs old now). His father and I were never married, engaged..ect. We weren't even together throughout the entire pregnancy...I found out two days after we split up. I've spent two years trying to get child support and now when its ordered, his father decides to just change my son's last name. I don't understand how he can do this WITHOUT MY PERMISSION when my son has always lived with me, always had my last name, his father has only seen him maybe 4 or 5 times, and we were never married. I have a hearing coming up next week because I appealed the decision to change my son's last name. Is this a common occurance...does the father usually get to decide the last name no matter what the mother(who has always been the custodial parent) says? Or do I have a legitimate argument against this name change?