BellydancerMom
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My ex-husband and I share 50/50 custody of our three-year-old son.
I am now in a new relationship and my new partner treats my son as if he were his own. We are also expecting a child of our own in late November. We have no plans to marry at this time, but we consider ourselves a family and have established a loving, comfortable household together.
My partner is on social security disability, so he contributes very little financially to the household. I am a working mom, providing the financial support for our home and family while my partner cooks, cleans and maintains the home. We've planned for him to stay home with the new baby.
My question is this: Can my ex prevent my partner from picking up our son from daycare?
The ex-husband has stated that he will not consent to my partner picking our son up from daycare unless he is able to run a criminal background check on him. Naturally, I want to avoid this. It is true that my partner does have a criminal record from his wild, younger days. (I know, because I ran it myself: Possession of controlled substance/drug paraphernalia, simple assault, harassment and some traffic violations—All between 2002-2004.) But this man has worked VERY HARD to turn his life around. I just think he would try to take my son from me. Please, should I just tell him I'll pick up my son from now on and avoid any problems? Or should I stand my ground based on the fact that my partner is living a clean, respectable life and has already helped me to care for his son over the last 2 years?
Thank you,
BellydancerMom
I am now in a new relationship and my new partner treats my son as if he were his own. We are also expecting a child of our own in late November. We have no plans to marry at this time, but we consider ourselves a family and have established a loving, comfortable household together.
My partner is on social security disability, so he contributes very little financially to the household. I am a working mom, providing the financial support for our home and family while my partner cooks, cleans and maintains the home. We've planned for him to stay home with the new baby.
My question is this: Can my ex prevent my partner from picking up our son from daycare?
The ex-husband has stated that he will not consent to my partner picking our son up from daycare unless he is able to run a criminal background check on him. Naturally, I want to avoid this. It is true that my partner does have a criminal record from his wild, younger days. (I know, because I ran it myself: Possession of controlled substance/drug paraphernalia, simple assault, harassment and some traffic violations—All between 2002-2004.) But this man has worked VERY HARD to turn his life around. I just think he would try to take my son from me. Please, should I just tell him I'll pick up my son from now on and avoid any problems? Or should I stand my ground based on the fact that my partner is living a clean, respectable life and has already helped me to care for his son over the last 2 years?
Thank you,
BellydancerMom