what a mess

[momneedhelp]

This is a really bad one so if anyone has an idea please let me know. I sent me husband divorce papers 8 years ago. Since then he has not paid child support or been part of their lives at all. I got into a situation where my ex-boyfriend beat up my boyfriend and was forced to press charges so nobody would go to jail. I stated it as an assault. Anyway my new husband now was blamed by my ex and confused my little girl and she said she may have been touched. All the investigations were done yet he is still using this against us saying the children are in harm. They hate their real dad and my husband loves them and they love him as their own dad. He has raised them for the past 6 years with me. My children are honor roll students very loving and are going through soooo much. He has already put scares on my wrists with a wire, and charged by the state of AZ. The only reason their real dad wants anything to do with them is because he threatened me about writing off 10,000 back support and they were getting ready to up the amount to 900.00 and he doesn't want to pay. They don't get along. If anyone can help it would really be appreciated. He even forged our divorce papers and child custody papers in Idaho to get out of the Army. He is putting these papers through the Arizona courts as we speak. Please someone help!!!!!! Oh and can't afford an attorney….

 

[Duranie]

I don;'t understand your post. He is Dad and your husband is not. You need to go to court if you are served. You cannot expect child support from him and no rights at all and your husband has no rights to the kids. In AZ you do not need an attorney, they have a large mediation department. I am not sure what the father is wanting. Is he suing you for custody? If you knew he forged the papers then why didn't you dispute it in court? It appears the kids were exposed to domestic violence which is why he is serving you. By the way you should never say your kids hate their dad. If they do, it is because you have taught them that. If you are not even married to your boyfriend he has no rights to the kids at all.

I suggest you get an attorney, or work something out with Dad as far as visitation and child support.