Want to get husands rights took!

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angel2529

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I am a mother of three and I am married to my 3 yr olds Dad, but we haven't been together in over 2 years.My other two are by another man. My husband has nothing to do with my daughter, doesnt call and check on her, doesnt try to see her, doesnt pay child support, doesnt do anything period for her, hes worthless. And I want his rights took. Cause he has neglected her since day one. I am with a man now that she believes is her Daddy, and he wants to adopt her, but has been in a little bit of trouble in his past. My question is how do I get my husbands rights took to where he has nothing over her, and get her last name changed? And how do I go about my fiance adopting her and my other two kids.
My oldest two are 6 and 7. Their Dad hasn't seen them in over two years. We havent been together in like 8 years or so. He has never payed a day in child support either. I would also like his rights took, for my oldest two call my fiance Daddy too.
My fiance is a great man, and a great Dad. He has had some trouble in his past, but is very different now. Do u think that will be a problem with him adopting? Do you think he will be able to adopt all three and them take his last name?
If anyone can help me with these situations, please let me know. I've been doing this for to long.
 
First of all, you need to stop having kids with losers.

You cannot terminate parental rights unless the fathers agree.

A full adoption and a homestudy must be done. If your husband has been in trouble with the law, you can almost forget about it. Please stop hooking up with losers. Why are you involved with a guy with a record? Think about your kids here.

Have you contacted CSE to find out why you are not getting any CS?

You are also responsible for the choices you make in your life. You need to do the best you can with your kids and raise them without getting involved with men with rap sheets. I don't know what crimes he has committed but if anything involves drugs or voilence, he should not be a father to your kids.

Sorry for the harsh advice but you need a reality check.
 
well to let u know, u shouldnt judge people youdont know. he isnt the loser, their biological fathers are. He is the one stepping up to the plate and being a Daddy to these kids that are not even his. They want nothing to do with their kids, and that is neglect, and abandonment. And as for his record, its his past that dont make him a loser. I have a record too, so are you saying that makes me a loser. Even though I have raised my three girls alone since day one until he came in my life? Answer that.Do you think everyone who has made a few wrong choices are losers. Maybe you need the reality check. I know what I am talking about. and I do know that in the state of Ohio if a father is not involved at all for over a year, you can file for their rights to be took due to neglect.I had the child support judge tell me that himself. So dont come on here and judge me fiance when you dont even know him.
 
angel25_29 said:
well to let u know, u shouldnt judge people you dont know. He isnt the loser, their biological fathers are. He is the one stepping up to the plate and being a Daddy to these kids that are not even his. They want nothing to do with their kids, and that is neglect, and abandonment. And as for his record, its his past that dont make him a loser. I have a record too, so are you saying that makes me a loser. Even though I have raised my three girls alone since day one until he came in my life? Answer that.Do you think everyone who has made a few wrong choices are losers. Maybe you need the reality check. I know what I am talking about. and I do know that in the state of Ohio if a father is not involved at all for over a year, you can file for their rights to be took due to neglect.I had the child support judge tell me that himself. So dont come on here and judge my fiance when you dont even know him.
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I asked for help, not criticism.
 
Still need help!!

I have talked to several attorneys but still havent found the answers I need. If anyone has any clues or answers that can help me or knows of a site I can get on to find out more info, please let me know....thanks
 
I have already given you some non legal advice. An attorney should be able to help you, if they are not giving you the answers you want then what you may want cannot be done right now.

You need to get a divorce from your husband.

You are putting the cart before the horse here. Why are you talking about getting married and adopting when your are not even divorced yet?

After you get divorced, and you marry your fiancee, once you have been married for 1 year then you can petition the court for the adoption. The fathers of these kids do not have to agree though.

I think you should focus on taking care of your kids, and if your divorce and remarriage happens in the near future, then great. Also your husbands criminal record is probably going to hinder the adoption process. A legal adoption often cannot be done if he is a felon. there are guidelines that need to be followed and home studies will be done and that also involved back ground checks.

You have several things to work around. And I don't know how old you are but 3 kids with deadbeat dads is alot to swallow. Not sure if you are planning on any more kids with your fiancee but his criminal record, you could be setting yourself up for more problems.

The attorney's you have talked too are your best source of legal advice.
 
Im 25 yrs old, and I am alos a felon. So whats the difference in him being one? I am in the process of a divorce. and just for ur own personal knowledge, my fiance, yes he is a felon, but they do take in consideration, he is not a felon for molestation or rape, or GSI, or any other type of sexual charges. and it is from his past records..which were before we ever got together. He was just a young adult then who made some wrong choices. And we are good parents, and they will take all this in good consideration when they do home studies and everything else they do. My kids make excellent grades in school, and want for nothing. My main worry is my kids, thats y I want their biologicl dads out of their lives. they deserve better, and their dad to be is the solution to them having a real dad. Thanks for ur so called advice, but it isnt the advice I need, so I will wait for the next person to come along.
 
hey angel

dont feel bad...lots of people have been separated for loooong periods of time, then when they find that right person, they want their divorce done now lol....i'm in <<<that sitituation now...but yes in order for a parent to give up rights, you must take him to court, prove his issues, and ask that both men sign their parental rights over...now about the felon thing....depends on the felony...i'm assuming that it isn't child porn, molestation or anything of those sorts, wether with a minor or an adult...good luck...besides....for the rest of you...people can do a 180 in a matter of days..."he isnt the man i married", "he never hit me before","he wont do it again" are alot of things we here women say today....and for all we know, both of her childrens fathers could have been wonderful men, men they had relationships with, but didnt go sour till after the children were born...i'm a product of 1 of those relationships...so i'm with the kids on this...however, on the adoption thing, the baby, i'd say sure...the 2 older...i recommend waiting till they are older, b/c they HAVE had their father around....that way, since they do know him, they can make the decision on who's name they want....but hey i think its awesome you found a man who'll take on all the "baggage" as some would say, that you have...congrats there and good luck:p
 
:rolleyes: Thank u for understanding where I am coming from....I see what u are saying about the older 2 kids, but they already tell everyone their last names my fiances...its all pretty good....We all have been in these situations before...and his felonys were drug related from his past, nothing major....so all I have to do is prove their issues huh?.. That wont be hard, how do I go about this, can I do it in the divorce on my younger kid...?...well thanks u..
 
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you might be able to do it in the divorce, but only if they will sign then...you might have to make that an entire different court thing...don't worry about the drug thing...did he do a sentence? or any detox stuff? i'm sure he will be fine, my fiance could have lost in court ALOT b/c he used to be a um, lets say at the time he got with his daughters mother, he wasnt "clean". and she could have brought that up during the trial, but didnt. so it just depends on who knows about this felony...if the guys turn up with lawyers willing to dig into both of ur pasts, then it may become an issue, but i doubt it, if they can't pay support, i doubt they can afford a lawyer...just don't let ur fiance become involved in the divorce...just during the divorce, consent to foregoing ALL child support if the father will sign away his rights...as with the other father, do some internet research about your states law, or just go to the courthouse in your area and find out...good luck...plus, we may all have been brought up as equals, but i've learned that someone will always think they are better than someone else...
 
ok, thanks for the info...u have been a lot of help...it depends on what county I go into for them to know about my fiances felonys...some countys know real well...but I am not to worried about it....but anyways...the oldest 2's Dad lives in a different state..he lives in Ky...so do u think that will be a big problem??..my husband is just worthless and wont go to court for a divorce or anything else due to having warrants on him...so is there a way I can do it with out him present?...well, im off to work...discuss more with u later..
 
haha

how funny...KY is where my fiance had his divorce done lol...well, his mom made his brother and g/f sign their rights over, and it didnt take her very long at all, however, those 2 were willing to do it...good luck
 
oh I see...the guy in ky is with a woman who had her kids took, and their getting married...so I think I will get somewhere by all that..cause if her kids got took, then she isnt a fit mother, and tey wont give him no visitation with her around right?....the husband will do as I say to get child support took off him...like I said before hes worthless...What part of ky was he in...mines Paintsville....lol....well talk to u soon..
 
lmfao...ur kidding right???

holly hell girl...my fiance was BORN AND RAISED in pikesville and paintsville...both his parents and ALL his family live there......omfg thats hilarious...small town huh? is that where you are???
 
No honey I am in Ohio..he is in paintsville ky...his names Roy he is 27. I know his whole family there...lol...it is a small world huh?...Where are u at?..well im off to bed, will be on tomorrow....if u have yahoo messenger let me know, and we can talk on there....more private, so everyone dont know about our lives...lol......nite:)
 
yeah i have yahoo

its

kiss_this_southern_69

lol i know huh? dont ever go to freeadvice.com....there are about 10 peeps who call everyone trailer trash, and 1 is apparently an attorney here in cali....
wow, on yahoo give me his last, i wonder if my fiance knows him lol
 
hey I have added u but no response yet....I will tell u on the messenger...but not on here ok?...well, I am going to go, talk to u on here later....:p
 
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