klondyke08
New Member
My dranddaughter has visitation with her father every tuesday and everyother Friday, but she is having a hard time accepting this at her age. Her Mother and Father were never married and he does pay support. The child does not want to stop seeing her father, but she does not want to continue to stay on the weekends and for extended periods of vacation which are usually 2 week in length. While with him he only spends limited amounts of time with her and sends her to his mother's house for days which she truly hates or she is taken to his brothers house for a time frame which she does not like. While she is with him during these vacation times he refuses to allow her any contact with her mother even tho he is required to do so by court order. He always an excuse for this. When the child is on vacation with her mother he always shows up and explains it as he forgot the dates even tho it is writing and he knows it is upsetting to her. At what age can she stop going with him, but continue to have contact with him if she wishes. Up to this point she has handled it quite well even tho there was no formal visitation until she was 5 because he did not want it. She is becoming very angry over this and during the school year it has an effect on her concentration an attention span especially after spending the weekend. She asking when she can stop going and I do not want to give her any wrong information and have continued to tell her that I do not know the answer, but she must follow the court order at this time.
