Visitation Changes

[dedicatedmom]

My ex drafted a letter he sent to me and the courts to STOP exercising his visitation time. (normally was one mid-week visit and 1,3,5 weekend) He has not given any valid reason for making this choice, but has continued it for 2 months now. He hasn't seen the children in 2 months and I have had them call him every other week, but when I do, they get nervous because he asks "why are you even calling me?" then proceeds to send me a nasty email telling me to not bother having them call. I believe his wife has a strong hand in this decision as well, even though he has only used his vistitation regularly for about 2 yrs out of the 9 we have been divorced. He abused me and has a record. (courts didn't care when we went through modification last year) Anyway, now he hasn't had contact for 2 months, I'm moving about 25 miles away, I'm getting married again. I'm sure he will try some scare tactic or complain he doesn't want to drive that far for the kids even though he has not expressed any wishes to see them. Would he be able to have a valid reason to complain or stop the move (I am staying in the counties that I'm contained to) plus how is his choice to not have any contact with his kids going to effect further visitations IF he decides to see them again?? Would I be able to alter visitation based on his behavior lately? Thank you!

 

[jharris352]

He has and will maintain the right to visit the children. He should be paying child support. Is he? Your move shouldn't be hampered because you are within the agreed upon county limits. For the record he is a piece of camel dung if you are telling the truth. Sorry, we never know when we hear one side of things.

If you can do without the support, maybe your new husband will consent to adopt the children. This won't do anything to prevent the emotional scars the children are going to suffer, but at least they will have a loving two parent home. Good luck. I hope he comes to his senses or God deals with him for you.

 

[dedicatedmom]

Thank you for your response. I really do appreciate everyone's input. I wish more people would comment, you know? I've thought about all the things you said and I know my new husband would love that, but also heard it's hard to do. My ex is so into money that at one point when the children were 2 &4 he agree to give up his biological rights as their father to avoid child support, sadly, his mother talked him out of it and now..... here we are. And yes, I promise, what I am saying is true. IF I could post the letter on here, I would! You'd be blown away by it. To think anyone would refuse time with their children is something I will never understand.