bightbluezz
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My husband and I were trying find out a few things about visitations and terminating parental rights. We live in FL and his kids live in TX that he shares joint custody with his ex.
My husband was in the military when he divorced his ex and they agreed to 4 weeks in the summer, every other holiday and every fathers day. After they divorced she moved to another state and he seen them a few times before deploying to Iraq. After he came home he seen them once or twice because the ex would always come up with some kind of excuse of the visit being an inconvience. Then we moved to Germany and fought tooth and nail with the ex to get the kids to visit for 4 summers. BUT they refused to visit and my husband understood because of them being afraid of flying that far.
Now my husband is out of the military and the 1st year we lived with my parents so there wasn't much room for them to visit. She made numerous comments that she would bring them out to visit but she would be there at all times due to the kids not having seen him for so long. So my husband let it slide.
Since then, we've moved to FL and we have tried getting them for Spring break and this summer. BUT his ex is making it difficult because my husband owes about $1000 in back childsupport because he lost his job in Sept 2008. Now she tells him that the kids want nothing to do with him, dont want to see him, or visit because of ME, and they want their stepfather to adopt them. When he questioned his kids on this, they all answered the same thing that his ex has been telling him for a few months. He has told the ex that she is in contempt for refusing the kids to visit him. She says that they should be able to see him in TX (In other wards not come to FL to visit and he has to do all the traveling). She has even gone to the extent of telling my husband that the boys have issues and their consulor doesn't feel that they should visit him in our home. She has yet shown any documentation over this. So now he's maybe seen him 4 times since 2001.
Does she have the right to do that? And how do we go about this? At this point he is just ready to sign over his rights. Their step father is willing to adopt them BUT the ex keeps telling him that she can't do anything until he's caught up on childsupport.
Can anyone help point us in the right direction? Thanks
My husband was in the military when he divorced his ex and they agreed to 4 weeks in the summer, every other holiday and every fathers day. After they divorced she moved to another state and he seen them a few times before deploying to Iraq. After he came home he seen them once or twice because the ex would always come up with some kind of excuse of the visit being an inconvience. Then we moved to Germany and fought tooth and nail with the ex to get the kids to visit for 4 summers. BUT they refused to visit and my husband understood because of them being afraid of flying that far.
Now my husband is out of the military and the 1st year we lived with my parents so there wasn't much room for them to visit. She made numerous comments that she would bring them out to visit but she would be there at all times due to the kids not having seen him for so long. So my husband let it slide.
Since then, we've moved to FL and we have tried getting them for Spring break and this summer. BUT his ex is making it difficult because my husband owes about $1000 in back childsupport because he lost his job in Sept 2008. Now she tells him that the kids want nothing to do with him, dont want to see him, or visit because of ME, and they want their stepfather to adopt them. When he questioned his kids on this, they all answered the same thing that his ex has been telling him for a few months. He has told the ex that she is in contempt for refusing the kids to visit him. She says that they should be able to see him in TX (In other wards not come to FL to visit and he has to do all the traveling). She has even gone to the extent of telling my husband that the boys have issues and their consulor doesn't feel that they should visit him in our home. She has yet shown any documentation over this. So now he's maybe seen him 4 times since 2001.
Does she have the right to do that? And how do we go about this? At this point he is just ready to sign over his rights. Their step father is willing to adopt them BUT the ex keeps telling him that she can't do anything until he's caught up on childsupport.
Can anyone help point us in the right direction? Thanks
