14 years ago I was living in California, in what I believe to have been a monagamous, unmarried, 3 year long relationship that ended without any significant problems. I now live in Florida. I have been contacted by a private attorney representing the woman I was with and her 13 year-old son, who now live in Missouri. I have been informed that this child is mine. Assuming my paternity is proven in lab tests:
1) In what state should a support agreement be handled? In what state should I hire my lawyer?
2) I am married with no children, my assets are comingled with my spouse except IRA & 401K funds. What formula is used to determine my assets for support purposes?
3) What formula is used to determine my monthly/annual support obligation? What about medical support obligations? What about post-secondary education obligations?
4) This is my first contact with this woman since our relationship ended 14 years ago. This is my first knowledge of a child for support. Am I responsible for any back-support? (I do not know of or believe there is any existing court order or settlement establishing my paternity or responsibility for support prior to this request.)
5) Who gets the child for the dependent deduction on US Income Taxes?
6) My son has told me he wishes to have no contact with me. I do not know but believe the mother has influenced this attitude negatively. I would like to get some family/group psychological counseling established with my son, the mother and myself as part of any agreement. Is this possible?
7) Is there any bad faith/negligence issue related to the mother concealing the existance of my son for 13 years?
I want the answers as specifically as possible so I can discuss these and other issues with the attorney I retain with some preliminary knowledge. I know I need to hire experienced representation.
1) In what state should a support agreement be handled? In what state should I hire my lawyer?
2) I am married with no children, my assets are comingled with my spouse except IRA & 401K funds. What formula is used to determine my assets for support purposes?
3) What formula is used to determine my monthly/annual support obligation? What about medical support obligations? What about post-secondary education obligations?
4) This is my first contact with this woman since our relationship ended 14 years ago. This is my first knowledge of a child for support. Am I responsible for any back-support? (I do not know of or believe there is any existing court order or settlement establishing my paternity or responsibility for support prior to this request.)
5) Who gets the child for the dependent deduction on US Income Taxes?
6) My son has told me he wishes to have no contact with me. I do not know but believe the mother has influenced this attitude negatively. I would like to get some family/group psychological counseling established with my son, the mother and myself as part of any agreement. Is this possible?
7) Is there any bad faith/negligence issue related to the mother concealing the existance of my son for 13 years?
I want the answers as specifically as possible so I can discuss these and other issues with the attorney I retain with some preliminary knowledge. I know I need to hire experienced representation.