sweetlttlpammy
New Member
My jurisdiction is: Oklahoma
I am being pre-emptive. I have not yet remarried, although we are planning to most likely by the end of the year. I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter whose father I was never married to, but we lived together for 5 years. He's not paid any child support to speak of, and has not seen her in 4 months. He is mentally ill, been in and out of mental health facilities since a teenager. He has a child from his first marriage that he gave up for adoption to his step-father years ago, his second marriage, he had 2 children, one of which he's never seen, the other it's been almost 6 years, he does not pay child support to them either. There is no child support order in force for me and my daughter and no visitation order either. He makes no effort whatsoever. he has verbally agreed to let my future husband adopt my daughter. He is currently charged with domestic abuse in the presence of a minor in relation to an incident with his current wife (of 2 months) and most likely divorcing her as well. He simply is unstable. Given that he tells me he will consent to the adoption, what can I do NOW? Can I have him sign a consent form now and hold it until I am married, can the waiting period of 1 yr of marriage be waived, can the 12 of the last 14 months abandonment rule also be waived since he is willing to consent? Where do I go, and how do I prepare for this to be as smooth as possible?
I am being pre-emptive. I have not yet remarried, although we are planning to most likely by the end of the year. I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter whose father I was never married to, but we lived together for 5 years. He's not paid any child support to speak of, and has not seen her in 4 months. He is mentally ill, been in and out of mental health facilities since a teenager. He has a child from his first marriage that he gave up for adoption to his step-father years ago, his second marriage, he had 2 children, one of which he's never seen, the other it's been almost 6 years, he does not pay child support to them either. There is no child support order in force for me and my daughter and no visitation order either. He makes no effort whatsoever. he has verbally agreed to let my future husband adopt my daughter. He is currently charged with domestic abuse in the presence of a minor in relation to an incident with his current wife (of 2 months) and most likely divorcing her as well. He simply is unstable. Given that he tells me he will consent to the adoption, what can I do NOW? Can I have him sign a consent form now and hold it until I am married, can the waiting period of 1 yr of marriage be waived, can the 12 of the last 14 months abandonment rule also be waived since he is willing to consent? Where do I go, and how do I prepare for this to be as smooth as possible?
