This sounds like the bad plot of a soap opera. I have a feeling we are only getting a fraction of the story as no normal person hides out in out of state hotels with 5 kids and puts their house on the market because of one argument with a neighbor. Frankly, showing up at her work and soliciting others who have had a bad experience with her online is over the top and makes you sound unhinged. If the restraining order was granted, apparently a judge agreed.
You moved out of state. Don't talk to her. Don't talk about her. Move on and worry about your family. I'm not sure what kind of legal advice you are seeking.