Is there any way in which a husband, who has cheated on his wife, and continues to do so with his own half cousin, can be held at fault in CA in order to get a better settlement for the wife? Even after being confronted he refuses to end the affair. Wife has suffered mental abuse and gave up well-paying corp job 10 years ago to marry and raise 2 children (ages 4 and 8). He is a VP with a large corp and makes between 150K to 200K depending on bonuses. They have been married 10 years and are still living together but probably for not much longer. The wife has little current skills to go back to job without classes or training. He wanted her to stay at home when they got married, and have and raise kids. This is the second marriage for both, and she had a 4 yr old by her previous marriage when they married. Now a teenager this has also caused great mental anguish for him since he found out about the affair. Also, if the husband tries to hide assets in other accounts or not allow her a part of his latest bonus earned in Jan ( but is just now being paid), can she use social security number or anything to track the money? This no-fault divorce rule seems inherently unfair. The person who truly has no fault in the situation, the wife, should get most of the assets since she was left without a career and was not the cause of the divorce. Are there ever any exceptions where the spouse can be made to pay for the pain and suffering he has caused by his unfaithful actions?