Signing over rights / Support question

[Mirage]

The mother of my child and I (never married, never a couple) have been discussing this for a while and after months of discussion, I agreed to terminate my rights provided she included that my financial obligations (suppport etc) were terminated with that.

My questions:

1. In PA (Cumberland County) when a parent terminates their rights, be default support is still to be paid?

1a. If so, can we add to the termination of rights that all financial obligations (support etc) are terminated?

2. Her fiance is going to adopt the child, but they are saying it will cost $2,000 to adopt, and that has to be done at the same time the rights are terminated because it's all the same process. This is false correct?

2a. I was under the assumption that if I terminated my rights, the adoption process didn't involve me at all if the rights are terminated.

3. A personal friend (lawyer in NY) offered to draw up the termination of rights for me. If both the mother and myself sign this and notarize this we can take this to the court house, and file it with the plethorian, and it should be final? Or am I missing steps? (We both have limited expenses and are trying to bypass using a lawyer)

3a. Is there anything special for PA that he (lawyer in NY) needs to put in the termination of rights for the support/financial obligations to be terminated?

Thanks for any help and if you need more details please let me know. Thanks again!

 

[Duranie]

Normally a TOR is not done until the mom at least marries her boyfriend and has a husband. He then agrees to adopt the child.

Are you signing over rights just to get out of paying support? Is your attorney friend a family law attorney? Most states will only terminate rights ILO a subsequent adoption.

Default support is still generally owed.

It is going ot be near impossible to do this correctly without a lawyer. A judge still has to authorize this and most states require adoption procedures be followed.

Your limited funds is your problem, If you did not want the child, nor if you don't want to support the child you should not have gotten her pregnant. Adoption is not a do it yourself project. The fiancee is not too smart to be doing this since he is not married to her and whether or not a judge will even approve this before marriage is anyones guess.

 

[Mirage]

I'm not worried about support. Has nothing to do with this. There are many other underlying circumstances.

No, I'm not signing over to stop paying support. I've never missed a pickup date, payment, had insurance on him the day after his birth, etc etc.

Yes, my friend and his wife cover everything from Family law to criminal law and they have their own firm.

The mother did say she didn't want money any more and wanted to know if she could take me back to domestic to say we are going to agree on handling the financial support on our own, which I know can be done if they couldn't drop the support order.

 

[Duranie]

Well I cannot help but wonder why you are wanting to totally abandon this child, which is what you would be doing. Is a TOR really in the childs best interest? How old is the child? If you have paid your support and been an active involved Dad, then I do not know why you would want to terminate your rights. You realize by doing this, it cannot be reversed and you are a legal stranger to the child? Please re-think this.