pumpkinhead
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I'll try to make a long story short...
I have a 12-yr old son. His bio-father has not been in his life until recently (the last couple years). He lives in Colorado. We live in California. A couple years ago, Child Support Services finally caught up with him and I was able to get a child support order. As soon as my ex started paying support, he all of a sudden wanted a relationship with his son. Two summers ago, I flew out to CO with my son, so he could meet his father. Things went OK. So over Thanksgiving, I allowed my son to fly to CO, on his own. The day before he was supposed to come home (Friday night), I got a text msg, saying my son was not coming home and there was a court hearing scheduled for that Monday. He was claiming my husband (who has been my son's "dad" since he was 2 yrs old) & I were abusing my son. I flew out to CO and appeared in court...charges were found false and my son came home with me. (It was a complete nightmare!)
Now, we did not have any custody orders, only support orders - obviously now, I realize my HUGE mistake in not having custody orders before my son went... I guess I just want to see the good in people and didn't think it was needed.
Now, my son does not want anything to do with his bio-father, as he forced him to lie and said all sorts of horrible things about me to my son. I have
had him in counseling for a few months now because of this.
My ex has since old my son "I'm done with you" and I want to sign my rights over. He has posted harassing threats about me on his facebook page. He has told me he wants me to send him paperwork so he can sign his rights over.
#1, I am not going to do his "dirty work" and fill out this paperwork for him... if he wants it, he can do it.
#2, I feel his main reason for doing this is so he doesn't have to pay child support.
I feel he is morally and legally obligated to support his child, feeling and custody issues are another matter.
So my questions are: Can he just choose to sign away his rights, can I even agree to let him? If I was to agree to this, would he still have to pay child support?
What is the difference between signing over all rights and signing over 100% legal & 100% physical custody? (this is what I would like him to do)
(in case you are wondering... we looked into my husband adopting my son, but the fees are way to high, and it honestly wouldn't change how my husband feels about my son, it's just a piece a paper... he loves him as his own anyways... if the fees were in our budget, we would do it....)
I have a 12-yr old son. His bio-father has not been in his life until recently (the last couple years). He lives in Colorado. We live in California. A couple years ago, Child Support Services finally caught up with him and I was able to get a child support order. As soon as my ex started paying support, he all of a sudden wanted a relationship with his son. Two summers ago, I flew out to CO with my son, so he could meet his father. Things went OK. So over Thanksgiving, I allowed my son to fly to CO, on his own. The day before he was supposed to come home (Friday night), I got a text msg, saying my son was not coming home and there was a court hearing scheduled for that Monday. He was claiming my husband (who has been my son's "dad" since he was 2 yrs old) & I were abusing my son. I flew out to CO and appeared in court...charges were found false and my son came home with me. (It was a complete nightmare!)
Now, we did not have any custody orders, only support orders - obviously now, I realize my HUGE mistake in not having custody orders before my son went... I guess I just want to see the good in people and didn't think it was needed.
Now, my son does not want anything to do with his bio-father, as he forced him to lie and said all sorts of horrible things about me to my son. I have
had him in counseling for a few months now because of this.
My ex has since old my son "I'm done with you" and I want to sign my rights over. He has posted harassing threats about me on his facebook page. He has told me he wants me to send him paperwork so he can sign his rights over.
#1, I am not going to do his "dirty work" and fill out this paperwork for him... if he wants it, he can do it.
#2, I feel his main reason for doing this is so he doesn't have to pay child support.
I feel he is morally and legally obligated to support his child, feeling and custody issues are another matter.
So my questions are: Can he just choose to sign away his rights, can I even agree to let him? If I was to agree to this, would he still have to pay child support?
What is the difference between signing over all rights and signing over 100% legal & 100% physical custody? (this is what I would like him to do)
(in case you are wondering... we looked into my husband adopting my son, but the fees are way to high, and it honestly wouldn't change how my husband feels about my son, it's just a piece a paper... he loves him as his own anyways... if the fees were in our budget, we would do it....)
