Sex Crimes, Sex Offenders Please Don't Judge Me. I'm Going Insane With My Problem.

[poiuytrewq]

Hello.

I met a girl in a chat room a few months ago. From day one she told me that she was 19yrs old and that she was preparing to go to college. (I'm 25, by the way.) We spent the next several months emailing and texting. It was all innocent--nothing sexual at all.

About a month or so ago, she asked me if we could start sexting. To be honest, I felt uncomfortable doing it (I'm not that sort of guy), but I agreed to because I didn't think it would be a big deal. So we'd occasionally text dirty talk, and a few times images were sent back and forth (mostly from her.)

Well, just yesterday she confessed to me that she was only 16.

I'm so scared. I'm not a pedophile. If I had known she was 16, I never would have done anything with her. I swear to God I'm telling the truth here.

I also understand that this means nothing in the eyes of the law. I'm the adult, and even though I honestly had on idea this girl was a minor, I'm probably going to be charged with a whole bunch of crimes and put in prison.

I'm so scared. My life is ruined, isn't it? I never would have done this had I known her true age. I honestly believed she 19yrs old. I'm not some lowlife creep who tries to have sex with kids. As soon as I found her age I ended it. I deleted the few images from my phone she had sent me. I had absolutely no idea. I'm horrified right now.

I suppose a lot of people who reply to this are going to judge me to be some evil monster. I'm not, though. If I'm screwed, then I am seriously considering suicide. I'll buy a gun and end it. I'm not afraid to die. I can't face being charged with such a heinous crime. I never in a million years would have done it had I known her age.

What do I do? Can someone please help me? I haven't been able to stop shaking in fear. I don't want to end up getting beaten and raped in prison. I don't want to be a registered sex offender. I don't want to be charged with possessing child pornography.

I'm not a pig. I don't go out into the world and entice minors. I just don't know what to do.

 

[shrinkmaster]

First off cease all contact with this person! No replies, goodbyes nothing! Next if you have not been contacted by Police relax and go on with life. If you have or are saying nothing without a Lawyer! In mean time read this http://www.parentnook.com/dont-be-fooled-by-internet-catfish/ its not same story but similar and there are lessons to learn

 

[poiuytrewq]

Thanks for the reply.

Guess what, though?

This girl just contacted me and told me that she was pranking me. She now says she IS 19yrs old. I'm probably just going to leave her alone.

Thanks again for the reply.

 

[shrinkmaster]

This changes nothing in my reply

 

[cbg]

Yes, your life is over. Any minute now they're going to kick in your door and drag you away in chains where you'll be thrown in an 8 by 8 cell for the rest of your life without benefit of trial.

Now are you happy?

Guys, this guy is trolling. He posted this on another site with a slightly different set of facts and got the correct legal answers (which, for the set of facts he first posted, were that he was in no danger and no one was going to be concerned about his conversations). When he got those answers, he changed her age from 17 to 16, and still no one would tell him that he was in danger.

So here, instead of it all being perfectly clean talk with no sex involved, it was sexting and an exchange of pictures. And she's sixteen to start with.

And his IP address says he's a long way from Pennsylvania.

BTW, OP, I'm on at least three other message boards as well as this one and the first one where you posted this. Just in case you're planning to troll any more boards this weekend.

 

[poiuytrewq]

Yes, your life is over. Any minute now they're going to kick in your door and drag you away in chains where you'll be thrown in an 8 by 8 cell for the rest of your life without benefit of trial.

Now are you happy?
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I'm sincerely curious as to what might happen in such a situation. Would a man who unknowingly sexted a minor be treated no better than the sort of men on To Catch A Predator? I'm not a legal expert by any means, but it seems so strange and illogical to blame a man and ruin his life for an act he wouldn't have done had he known.

 

[army judge]

I'm sincerely curious as to what might happen in such a situation. Would a man who unknowingly sexted a minor be treated no better than the sort of men on To Catch A Predator? I'm not a legal expert by any means, but it seems so strange and illogical to blame a man and ruin his life for an act he wouldn't have done had he known.

If any aspect of our laws concern you, contact your state and federal legislators.
They write the laws that we are required to obey.
Yes, if things are as you describe, an adult can find himself or herself in deep legal poopoo.
A smart adult limits his or her contacts to KNOWN associates, acquaintances, or friends.
A somewhat smart adult "chats" only in PUBLIC, and never in PRIVATE, with people unknown to him or her.
All of your "conjecture" ignores reality.
The situation you've created is conjecture from the mind of an adult with too much time on his hands, and a deep seated desire to explore the recesses of a debauchery so foul, society has draconian laws to protect the weakest among us.
I've been on this planet for decades.
I've never found myself in such a precarious position.
I follow the Billy Graham model and have escalated to the extreme by never getting on an elevator with any female (adult or child) NOT my female relative alone, and the same goes for male children.
I also don't waste my idol hours chatting about sex with adults or children.
Good luck, buddy.

 

[cbg]

I'm sincerely curious as to what might happen in such a situation. Would a man who unknowingly sexted a minor be treated no better than the sort of men on To Catch A Predator? I'm not a legal expert by any means, but it seems so strange and illogical to blame a man and ruin his life for an act he wouldn't have done had he known.

Then the way to get an answer is not to spam a message board, but to simply ask a question.

And this is a perfect example of why only a damn fool idiot with fewer IQ cells than the average two by four and who can only think with his southern brain to the exclusion of his northern one would sext or send suggestive pictures to someone he has not actually met in person.

If he is stupid enough to do such a thing then he deserves everything he gets. No, I don't think that's too harsh.

 

[Betty3]

The bottom line is this is not something you want to do with someone who you do not know anything about for sure & who you have not met in person - not a good idea at all.