Please Advise.

[SolVida]

Please Advise. Underage photographs.

Hello, all.

I'm very embarrassed to be writing this, but this seemed like a good site to ask for advice. I hope this is the appropriate forum for this thread.

I was recently made aware that my ex-boyfriend had been sending people nude pictures of me without my consent. I've been reading a lot on the internet about similar matters, and since I willingly allowed him to take some of the pictures, it does not seem like there is anything I can do about it. Even if I asked him to delete them and he claimed that he had, it does not look like I can do anything about it but learn a lesson.

Some of the pictures were taken when I was a minor, however, and I was wondering if there is anything at all I can do to ensure that he will not continue to distribute these pictures? I know it was more than just a bad idea to allow him to take the pictures. I'm not looking for monetary restitution, I was just wondering if there was some legal action I could take that would disallow him to possess nude photographs taken of me when I was under age?

 

[Duranie]

If the pictures were taken when you were underage, that is probably a crime. How much older is he than you? That is likely considered child pornography.

you might want to see about contacting your police department and see if you can talk to a detective. He faces criminal charges, he should not be sending out child porn.

You xan see a civil attorney to see if there is anything you can do to stop the distribution, if for some reason you decide not to press criminal charges.

 

[SolVida]

Thank you so much for replying. My ex is three years older than me. Some of the pictures in his possession (that I asked him multiple times to get rid of, and he claimed that he had) were taken when I was seventeen. Do you know what kind of proof I am responsible to obtain in order to show that I was in fact under age when the pictures were taken, and how I might go about acquiring it? I am not sure what my burden of proof is concerning these claims, or how likely someone is to help me to pursue it.

I also called the local police last night, and person I spoke to told me that I should consult with an attorney, that they might be able to help. I cannot afford to pay an attorney right now, but I told my mother what had happened and she attempted to contact a law enforcement officer that she knows for advice. She was unable to speak with him when she called, but she told me his receptionist told her that I should go to the county sheriff's department and they would take it up with the special task force, but I'm not sure what that entails.

 

[seniorjudge]

Thank you so much for replying. My ex is three years older than me. Some of the pictures in his possession (that I asked him multiple times to get rid of, and he claimed that he had) were taken when I was seventeen. Do you know what kind of proof I am responsible to obtain in order to show that I was in fact under age when the pictures were taken, and how I might go about acquiring it? I am not sure what my burden of proof is concerning these claims, or how likely someone is to help me to pursue it.

I also called the local police last night, and person I spoke to told me that I should consult with an attorney, that they might be able to help. I cannot afford to pay an attorney right now, but I told my mother what had happened and she attempted to contact a law enforcement officer that she knows for advice. She was unable to speak with him when she called, but she told me his receptionist told her that I should go to the county sheriff's department and they would take it up with the special task force, but I'm not sure what that entails.

Who helped you write this post?

 

[bigblue]

If he took pictures of you in a private situation (not in a public place), he must secure your permission to use them in any pugblication including having them published on the internet. I'm not certain of the criminal legalities after you were of age, but as far as the underage photos you should press charges. That way you won't need a lawyer. The only proof you need is to download one of the pictures making sure the URL is included.

 

[bigblue]

Q: Can I publish pictures of people I've photographed without permission?

A: That depends upon the purpose of the picture. If it's artistic or editorial in nature, or can be characterized as to inform or educate, then you do not need your subject's explicit permission.

If the picture or any associated text may be libelous, defamatory, or fall outside of what courts have described as "the normal sensibilities" of the target audience, then you may need permission from the subject for your own protection. You also need permission from the subject if the picture is used for commercial purposes, such as in an advertisement.

 

[SolVida]

Was that an insult, seniorjudge?

No one helped me to write the post. I may have done a very stupid thing in allowing someone to photograph me naked, but I am not so feeble that I am incapable of communication without another person's help.

 

[SolVida]

Thank you, bigblue.

I plan to contact the county sheriff's department, but I don't know if what my mother told me is true. (Sometimes I have to take what she says with a grain of salt, but true or not I know she meant well and was just trying to help). If my mom gave me inaccurate information and they are unable to help me, or if I can't supply sufficient proof that I was under age, I'm hoping there will be a lawyer who will consult with me for free. I was thinking maybe my ex could be approached with signing a statement that states that he will not disclose or share the pictures, but I don't know if that's legal or feasible.

Like I said, I'm not seeking money or attempting to have him incarcerated, I just don't want him to be able to continue to do the things he has done, whether he does it to me or another female.

Edit: Also, do pictures sent in emails qualify as publication? I'm afraid there may be some of that as well. I have a lot of research to do.