Please advise me

[beachbeach]

I could write a book about the past 4 or 5 years of my constant struggle with my ex wife and kids. I have struggled with taking her to court and getting full custody and hoped and prayed for her to come to her senses. She is not a horrible person but just not a good Mother and I am at the point now of choosing what is best for my kids and a desire for them to grow up in a more stable and loving home. I just foind out from my childs first grade teacher..just by chance..that my ex has been charged with shoplifting concealment goods in th NC court system and has a postponed court date of next month. I have not told her yet i know. The teacher came across it while searching for something online (we have the same last name) I think it says a lot about her character and no matter what the reason...for being charged, feel i need to gain full custody and end the "joint" custody -arranged through my lawyer when i filed for divorce -after she had an affair. She actually never signed the divorce papers and after a certain period of time...would be considered an absolute divorce. I just woncer---do i have a chance...considering the way NC and custody seems to side with the mother? I hate to put my kids through it..

 

[irish223]

I could write a book about the past 4 or 5 years of my constant struggle with my ex wife and kids. I have struggled with taking her to court and getting full custody and hoped and prayed for her to come to her senses. She is not a horrible person but just not a good Mother and I am at the point now of choosing what is best for my kids and a desire for them to grow up in a more stable and loving home. I just foind out from my childs first grade teacher..just by chance..that my ex has been charged with shoplifting concealment goods in th NC court system and has a postponed court date of next month. I have not told her yet i know. The teacher came across it while searching for something online (we have the same last name) I think it says a lot about her character and no matter what the reason...for being charged, feel i need to gain full custody and end the "joint" custody -arranged through my lawyer when i filed for divorce -after she had an affair. She actually never signed the divorce papers and after a certain period of time...would be considered an absolute divorce. I just woncer---do i have a chance...considering the way NC and custody seems to side with the mother? I hate to put my kids through it..

Unless she goes to jail, I wouldn't count on sole custody unless you have other reasons to believe she is unfit.

BTW, I think it was quite unprofessional of the teacher to pass along information about your ex to you. If her school district finds out, it could be a problem for her.