ThreeFatSamurai
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My baby's father and I have agreed that it would be best for our daughter if he signed over his rights.
When I was pregnant he said I was lying about it the whole pregnancy, when I had her, he told me and his mother that our baby girl was black (Which, of course, she isn't, she's just as white as he is.) I opted to get child support and a DNA test was done. We got the results back when she about six months old. He of course saw her every other weekend up until late August because his newest girlfriend was pregnant and too tired to have the baby over there. The times he did see her, he smoked pot around my child and did prescription pills.
His girlfriend had her baby early September and slowly he stopped seeing my little girl all together. The last time he saw her, my pink Nintendo DS Lite was in her diaper bag, let's just say, I never saw it again. That was the last time he saw her and it's been seven months since then. He had stopped paying child support as well. He called a few times since then to make plans to see her but come the day of, he made up some lame excuse was to why he had to cancel on her. He didn't even call or offer to see her on her first birthday; to be honest, I don't think he even knows when her birthday is.
I called him about a month and a half ago and asked him if he wanted to sign over his rights because I want to take a trip to see my family in Korea and I want to take Lily to meet them not this up coming Christmas, but the Christmas after. He had told me before when he had called and picked a fight with me that if I wanted to take her out of the country, he would not allow it and would not sign her passport. To me, that's unfair of him to try and keep her family on my side from seeing her when I let his family see her from two months+ (Which he wasn't around to see her then either.)
Well, he told me he would think about it. He consulted numerous friends of ours and his asking their opinions. They ultimately told him what I had said on the phone when I asked which was "You don't see her, you don't pay child support, and you don't at least call to let her hear your voice. There isn't any point for you to have any rights if you're not going to do anything with them. Besides, you have your new wife and new baby to look after, it's very obvious that Lily is not one of your priorities." He accepted it and called me back two weeks later saying he would like to do it, just tell him when and where.
Now, we were supposed to go to the court house and get the paperwork this Wednesday, but he, of course, flaked out without even calling until much later that night when the court house was closed. We made plans to car pool up there next Tuesday.
With all of this said, I want to know if the judge would pass this if it was for the best interest of the child? AND someone told me that he will still have to pay child support after he signs over his rights unless the other parent agrees for the support payments to stop, is this true?
I'm not trying to sound like a wench or anything, I'm just trying to look out for my child and her future. When she gets older and she wants to know about him, I will tell her, of course she will never know of all the horrible things he has said or done. If she wants to find him and establish some kind of relationship, that will be fine too, I'm at no liberty to stop her. However, he's not making any attempt to be in her life and if that's going to be the case, with her growing up I don't want her to feel unwanted, unloved, or unnoticed by the other parental party, you know what I mean? I had something similar to that growing up and it was mentally scarring. I never want that for my baby girl.
When I was pregnant he said I was lying about it the whole pregnancy, when I had her, he told me and his mother that our baby girl was black (Which, of course, she isn't, she's just as white as he is.) I opted to get child support and a DNA test was done. We got the results back when she about six months old. He of course saw her every other weekend up until late August because his newest girlfriend was pregnant and too tired to have the baby over there. The times he did see her, he smoked pot around my child and did prescription pills.
His girlfriend had her baby early September and slowly he stopped seeing my little girl all together. The last time he saw her, my pink Nintendo DS Lite was in her diaper bag, let's just say, I never saw it again. That was the last time he saw her and it's been seven months since then. He had stopped paying child support as well. He called a few times since then to make plans to see her but come the day of, he made up some lame excuse was to why he had to cancel on her. He didn't even call or offer to see her on her first birthday; to be honest, I don't think he even knows when her birthday is.
I called him about a month and a half ago and asked him if he wanted to sign over his rights because I want to take a trip to see my family in Korea and I want to take Lily to meet them not this up coming Christmas, but the Christmas after. He had told me before when he had called and picked a fight with me that if I wanted to take her out of the country, he would not allow it and would not sign her passport. To me, that's unfair of him to try and keep her family on my side from seeing her when I let his family see her from two months+ (Which he wasn't around to see her then either.)
Well, he told me he would think about it. He consulted numerous friends of ours and his asking their opinions. They ultimately told him what I had said on the phone when I asked which was "You don't see her, you don't pay child support, and you don't at least call to let her hear your voice. There isn't any point for you to have any rights if you're not going to do anything with them. Besides, you have your new wife and new baby to look after, it's very obvious that Lily is not one of your priorities." He accepted it and called me back two weeks later saying he would like to do it, just tell him when and where.
Now, we were supposed to go to the court house and get the paperwork this Wednesday, but he, of course, flaked out without even calling until much later that night when the court house was closed. We made plans to car pool up there next Tuesday.
With all of this said, I want to know if the judge would pass this if it was for the best interest of the child? AND someone told me that he will still have to pay child support after he signs over his rights unless the other parent agrees for the support payments to stop, is this true?
I'm not trying to sound like a wench or anything, I'm just trying to look out for my child and her future. When she gets older and she wants to know about him, I will tell her, of course she will never know of all the horrible things he has said or done. If she wants to find him and establish some kind of relationship, that will be fine too, I'm at no liberty to stop her. However, he's not making any attempt to be in her life and if that's going to be the case, with her growing up I don't want her to feel unwanted, unloved, or unnoticed by the other parental party, you know what I mean? I had something similar to that growing up and it was mentally scarring. I never want that for my baby girl.
These "friends" are willing to admit to crimes in court!?
