First post here, hope to get a little help, thanks in advance if so.
Well, like many others, I have 2 children with a woman I was never married too. The second was only born in May. We have never had any sort of legal agreement, or court "ordered" arrangements. While it's not much, I have been paying $100.00/month per child, as well as covering all health-care costs, and buying clothes, diapers, etc. from time to time.1
The deal that began with the first child being born, had been that I could pretty much get him whenever I wanted, but I usually would pick him up Saturday, and return him Sunday evening. I haven't excersised the same rights with the second son, because of his age, yet. I recently got married, to a great woman, and that's where my hell has began.
It seems that she has this huge power-trip anymore, telling me when, how, if, and so on. My wife and I have both bent over backwards to do as she says, but still every week I get harm filled emails stating that I don't do anything to help my kids, etc.
The most recent has stated that I should get some court documents soon, as she has taken the whole thing to court, and wants the custody, and I know very much, the money, to be decided legally.
My question is this....... Will it even be worth my time to try and get full custody of my children?? I know I could get partial, but then I get to pay extreme amounts of money for the priveledge. I have a pretty good job, which I've worked hard to get, while she gets to lay back and enjoy my income. I don't agree with the legal system in that aspect at all.
I love these guys to no end, but I can't take these power trips much longer. I'm almost at an end, and not sure what to do. I've considered giving up paternal rights, just to get this bit** outta my life. I don't want to do that, but I often think it would be better for my sons to not see all this going on. I just want them to be happy children, and I've already taken some of that away by not giving them the family I'd like too.
Sorry about the sobbing life-story, I'm just frustrated bad right now. Again, thx for any help.
Well, like many others, I have 2 children with a woman I was never married too. The second was only born in May. We have never had any sort of legal agreement, or court "ordered" arrangements. While it's not much, I have been paying $100.00/month per child, as well as covering all health-care costs, and buying clothes, diapers, etc. from time to time.1The deal that began with the first child being born, had been that I could pretty much get him whenever I wanted, but I usually would pick him up Saturday, and return him Sunday evening. I haven't excersised the same rights with the second son, because of his age, yet. I recently got married, to a great woman, and that's where my hell has began.
It seems that she has this huge power-trip anymore, telling me when, how, if, and so on. My wife and I have both bent over backwards to do as she says, but still every week I get harm filled emails stating that I don't do anything to help my kids, etc.
The most recent has stated that I should get some court documents soon, as she has taken the whole thing to court, and wants the custody, and I know very much, the money, to be decided legally.
My question is this....... Will it even be worth my time to try and get full custody of my children?? I know I could get partial, but then I get to pay extreme amounts of money for the priveledge. I have a pretty good job, which I've worked hard to get, while she gets to lay back and enjoy my income. I don't agree with the legal system in that aspect at all.
I love these guys to no end, but I can't take these power trips much longer. I'm almost at an end, and not sure what to do. I've considered giving up paternal rights, just to get this bit** outta my life. I don't want to do that, but I often think it would be better for my sons to not see all this going on. I just want them to be happy children, and I've already taken some of that away by not giving them the family I'd like too.
Sorry about the sobbing life-story, I'm just frustrated bad right now. Again, thx for any help.
