si if he does not object she will not lose her kid's right?
No one can promise you or her that she will not lose her children because of your past.
People can always change their mind.
You and her might be wise to discuss this thoroughly before you even get engaged.
You might be wise to discuss this thoroughly before you get too involved dating.
Maybe you both should go to a counselor, together?
You might BOTH wish to see a local attorney and discuss this with him/her?
The worst thing for everyone concerned would be to say nothing, do nothing, discuss nothing, and this gets discovered in two, three, four, or more years!
What Bay and Proserpina are saying to you is that your past can be a liability, not only to you, but to many other people.