My father took my baby...i need help to get her back

[dcolem09]

On monday my father took my 2 year daughter from me, he did not have legal documentation stating that he could take her. I called my local sherrifs department and when the sherrif and i went to my father's house to get my daughter and he accused me of being neglectful but had no proof of any of what he was saying but the sherrif wouldnt allow me to take my daughter back. i have been to the state and have been trying to find a lawyer no one is helping me in anyway shape or form.

i guess my question is what should i do, who should i go see, who will help me get my daughter back. its been a week and im afraid he might file for abandonment and i have not abandoned my daughter. please help me

 

[irish223]

Where are you located? To which state agency did you go for help?

 

[Duranie]

Call the police again, your dad may have kidnapped this child. Also you might want to contact an attorney.

Why would your dad take the child if you were not abusing or neglecting the child? Heis a grandparent and if he wants he can file for guardianship/custody if he can prove what he claims. Is there something going on in your house that you need to re-examine? Boyfriend?

 

[dcolem09]

i am located in millington and i went to the caro agency

 

[dcolem09]

i have a feeling it has to do with the guy i am seeing, but the man i am seeing has not hurt my child in anyway..i know for a fact because i have never left him with my child alone. but my father does not like him...

his reason for taking her was that when she was sick i went to work instead of taking care of her, so i was being neglectful and he also says i do drugs but i told the sherrif who went out to the house he could test me, i have never done drugs in my life. i have tried calling the police and it has gotten me know where, and due to the holiday on monday i cant get ahold of a lawyer till tuesday..although i have been trying. i keep leaving messages with the offices i call in hopes that they will get them soon.

also to answer the other question i live in millington michigan and i went to the state department in caro

 

[Marinewifey226]

I know it's hard...I really do. If the police can't help ASAP, see a lawyer on Tuesday. Who cares who you are with, it's YOUR life and you should be happy. It doesn't sound like you are neglectful and you have to work to take care of your child. You really need to see a lawyer. You did not abandon her and you are not neglectful. About the drugs and stuff....your dad HAS to be able to prove that. You are the mother and I wish you the best, but I know you will get your child back. Just have faith and get that ball rolling on Tuesday or as soon as you can!!
You are in my prayers!!!

 

[irish223]

I'm confused. Did you leave your daughter with your father when you went to work, or did she go to a daycare? Why doesn't your father like your boyfriend? Did the sheriff tell you why you couldn't take your daughter? What did he suggest you do? What agency did you go to in Caro? The DCFS?

Hopefully, you will get in touch with a lawyer on Tuesday. You can show that you have not abandoned your daughter since Monday by documenting the phone calls you've made for help, as well as your involvement of the sheriff.

 

[Scooterdog]

Call the police again, your dad may have kidnapped this child. Also you might want to contact an attorney. QUOTE]

If the police won't do anything, and generaly they won't without a court order, you can file a civil action if the criminal part fails.

Duranie is giving some good advice. I think getting criminal is a bit extreme at this point, just my opinion.

It looks like, from your posting, that you father is concerned about something. I don't agree with how this went about, but there seems to be more to this than what you are telling us.

Why would your father make sucha statement, if he knew it to be false?

 

[Duranie]

You need to reexam,ine your boyfriend. If you have a small child, it may be other peoples business on who you get involved with. Ddoes the boyfriend have a criminal record? You might want to take note that a child's risk of abuse increases by 8 times when an unrelated male moves into the house.

NEVER trust a man who is not the father of the child, to be alone with him. I am hearing all the time of boyfriends that kill or severely abuse their girlfriends kids. This is not something to be taken lightly.

Have done a background check on this guy? I am not trying to side with your Dad but Dsd may have something if there is a reason he doesn't like him.

I volunteer in social services and am tired of seeing kids slapped around by boyfriends. It happens all the time and more and more the mothers are being charged as well.

Just think about what you are getting yourself into here that's all. If your boyfriend has no criminal record and has NEVER shown ANY aggression towards the child, then it is up to you on whether or not its worth pursuing.

 

[Scooterdog]

It boils down to two things 1-somone is being paranoid, OR 2-there IS something going on, and you have neglected to see it, or chose to ingore it.

Your first responsability/priority is to your child. Everything else takes the backseat. I recomend you get to the bottom of it ASAP, for your childs sake. Even if nothing is going on, get to the bottom of it.