my 7yr old son

[pettyanne3]

I have a 7yr old son who was 2 months old when I meet my now ex husband. My son was from a previous relationship.My ex husband and I have a common child, Our daughter 5yrs old now. I never gave my ex husband any Legal rights to my son. There was never an adoption,guardianship or anything else that might other wise give him any Legal rights to my son. I still allow my son to spend the night at his house every other weekend and he also stay evenings during the week so that he can be with his little sister and the only Father that he has ever known. I have never tried nor have I ever threatened my ex husband with taking him away or not allowing him to see him, nor do I want to. I would never do that to my son or daughter. With all that said my ex husband insists that even though he divorced me he did not divorce my son and, that he is still his legal step father by law and that no one is going to take him away and legally he says no one can. Not even me? Is there any truth to this? any legal advice or knowledge of the law regarding this matter would be very helpful.

 

[Scooterdog]

No, he really has no rights.


It comes down to what is best for this child. If it is helpful for the child, then I would leave things alone. He is "dad" in an emotional way, which if he is good to the boy, where's the harm? The boy needs a dad, and he seems to want to play the role.

If you wanted to stop it, you certainly could, but I don't see what good it would do. You certainly make the decisions on this matter.

 

[Duranie]

Does your son know that this man is not his real dad? It really is up to you if you want to continue visits. Technically ex has no rights BUT if he is the only father the child has ever known, is it really in the kids best interest to stop visits?

So your ex is talking smack. He has no rights but it is good of you that you are biting the bullet and allowing contact.