Mom trying to disestablish paternity

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Phoenix2003

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While I realize that it is unusual for a mother to try and undo paternity dealings I do have a few questions regarding how I can go about it and any help I thank you for in advance.
I'm currently embattled with my exboyfriend over custody of my son. We had been together on and off for over 6 years with me finally leaving him for good in 05 when my son was 2. At the time of my sons conception we had literally JUST seperated and were living apart and both seeing other people. I found out I was pregnant, he found out and painted the whole white picket fence american ideals to get me back. I told him flat out I was sleeping with other people when my son was conceived and he still wanted to be daddy so to the naive 18 year old that I was it sounded like a good idea. Either way approximately a year ago he went and got an exparte order against me just flat out lying to the judge about my social life, my friends, and misquoting me to get his way. So at the hearing I didn't have any oppurtunity to defend myself against his allegations whatsoever, even though I had everything from medical records to bills with Phoenixs name and my address on them. Ex;s attorney sent mine an Affavdavit of paternity. I didnt want to sign it but my lawyer at the time said to just sign it so when all is said and done either we would be back together or I would get child support (trying to make it sound like a win-win situation I guess) and I signed it. Well nearly a year later the temporary order is still going on there has been no progress and I am at my wits end with it all. I read up on the statutes recently that said that the all documents related to Paternity had to have both parties SSN on them(which mine doesnt) and that I had 60 days to rescind it( which NO ONE told me about even after I expressed qualms with my decision). So now I am firing my lawyer and going pro se. But I was wondering if anybody knew of how well fighting this by technicalities would work? I really don't want to file the motion and look completely stupid but I also dont want any allegations of paternity fraud either.
 
Q: But I was wondering if anybody knew of how well fighting this by technicalities would work?

A: The law is 100% technicalities, so your question is meaningless.


Ask some other questions.
 
You likely cannot disestablish paternity because you allowed this man to legal establish paternity, and it likely is not in the childs best interest to do this. Each state has its own time frame to dispute paternity, you likely have missed it but you'll have to see wgat you can google in your state.

I highly recommend to not fire your lawyer, they likely know the law in your state on disputing paternity. I guess my question is, why are you doing this? You knew all along its possible he is not the father-by the way how do you know 100% he is not? Have you requested a DNA test? That may or may not be granted this far along either.

You probably are going to have to come to the realization that this man is the legal father, the child sees him as dad, and learn to coparent and work out a custody/visitation shcedule with him.
 
Why am I doing this? Because he has been nothing but a menace to my life since I met him but when you are young and dumb you dont know any better. He's left my child alone, given him antibiotics he's allergic to, somehow his finger was broken but I got 3 different stories as to how it happened, locked him in his room.....and this is all in the past year so I won't even go into the previous 4 years. But now he's broken up with his gf and apparently wants to rehash things and insinuated the only way I will have my son is to be with him. Which will not happen! I am not 100% sure he isnt the father but (now I realize I am not a geneticist) my blonde hair blue eyed son probably did not come from a man who is arabic... just a shot in the dark here. I have googled everything till my heart is content but this is not a highly sought after piece of information, which brought me here. And in a happy wonderful world yeah we could coparent but in reality that just isnt feasible. He wants thing his way or no way as do I. And with his mental health history or our own history of abuse if I went the rest of my life without seeing his face I would be happy. As for firing my lawyer, there is an extensive history of communication problems not to mention billing issues and I would rather do it myself then hiring another lawyer to just back me into more of a corner. No offense.
 
And the point of my question in the first place is if I argue the affadavit of paternity will the courts look more at the technical side or the emoitional side?
 
You cannot disestablish paternity just because you are mad at him. If that was the case, parents would be playing these games just to shut the other parent out. You are going to have to ask your attorney the legal time frame in your state for disputing paternity. It is probably too late. Dad is dad. The law in your state probably does not allow it.
 
It goes beyond me being mad at him...him being an unsafe and mentally unhealthy parent is what this is about. So thank you for you opinion!
 
If you can prove he is a danger to the child, then file for supervised visitation and call CPS if he has abused the child. You probably are not going to be able to dispute paternity. Time to realize he is the legal dad and you made him that way.
 
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