Meddling with school and medical

[Randy_Conklin]

Our divorce agreement reads as follows:
The parties agree that they shall each have equal access to all health and educational records and providers. This judgement shall act as authorization allowing defendant to the children's health care and medical and educational providers, including the right to receive duplicate notices regarding the children, and rights to discuss with them the children's health, education, welfare and attend any meetings that might be held as far as education, health and welfare.

The defendant is my ex wife.
With the access she has now, she has used it to get into the teachers ear. My girlfriend and I live together with our kids. My girlfriend does everything for them; school work, cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, dr's appts, etc...She is the one who has contact with the teachers, but my ex wife has managed to manipulate the teachers into her "corner" it causes much friction. Also, my girlfriend was able to put my sons on her medical policy. Now, My ex wife is insistant about having access to her policy info, etc...She's calling and making threats - just making waves.

Is this enough cause to have rights removed? Is it possible to have rights removed once they are given? I have sole, legal physical custody of them.

 

[Duranie]

To have what rights removed? Do you actually think you have grounds to terminate her rights? Nonsense. There is way you are even going to come close to terminating your ex's rights. Your girfriend here is not legal party to anything. I am surprised she was able to add your kids to her policy given you are not married. So if your girlfriend is refusing to give mom medical cards or anything, then that is not appropriate. How is mom supposed to take the kids to the DR with no policy info? Are you willing to pay out of pocket for all DR visits?

I think you both need to grow up a little. You have to learn to deal with each other until the kids are at least 18. Choose your battles carefully.

 

[Randy_Conklin]

Actually, I'm thinking I do. We're talking about someone who in the past has done internet porn (including facial abuse, use of a sex machine, urination in her mouth, drinking male ejaculate from shot glasses, sex w/ numerous partners and she's admitted to having an STD). She's an admitted drunk. Her history itself is questionable. She changes residences and boyfriends more frequesnt than some wear underwear. She is not a stable person and even school representatives know her to be manipulative. Whatever she has her hands in, she meddles with and rocks the boat. My girlfriend is not so quick to give out information to someone whom she had to press criminal charges against for threatening to kill her...would you? My girlfriend and I also share a daughter that is included in this medical policy that she also does not wwant my ex wife to have access to. So with that, I thought I'd come here and get some advice instead of being snapped at. And don't be too surprised by the fact that my girlfriend has them on her insurance policy. We are not married, so I am not financially responsible for her. All information that was given to acquire medical insurance was legitimate - even their mother's dob, ss# and full name was provided. Maybe you should do some research on a few things. You're right we do have to deal with her until they are 18. Keep in mind, she abandoned all of us. She decided her new found career was of more importance than her family. She willfully gave up her rights to her children. In her own words, "I don't want to be a wife and a mother". I know it's hard for people to digest, but imagine a female being a deadbeat - if you will. As far as growing up, I was 26 when left to raise a 2 and a 4 year old boy on my own. I am a grown up. This is "advice" I could have done without. Thanks, but no thanks.

 

[Duranie]

You don't get to take her rights away just because you do not approve of her or her lifestyle. You chose her to have 2 kids with she could not be that bad. Sorry you do not like my advice but you are on a legal message board, not a support board. I think it is admirable you are raising your kids to the best of your ability but the courts do not take away rights because she left you, and the STD thing is totally ridiculous. 1 in 4 US adults has one. As long as she is NOT harming the kids or endangering them, mom can have sex with who she wants. There is no way mom is going to consent to terminating her rights. You have no basis for it especially if she does not agree.