Loving Mother wants her daughther BACK!!!

[Marinewifey226]

I don't even know where to start. When I was pregnant I overheard my mother and step-father talk about how they wanted a child. I thought NOTHING of it. My mom and I have never been very close but when I was pregnant we were VERY close. I wanted a little girl so bad and she is now 3 years old. She lives with my mother and step-father, because my mother THREATENED to kill me if I took her out of the home ( I live in San Diego with my husband and 7 month old son). She then proceeded to want gaurdienship and me being stupid and scared what she would do if I said NO, I gave it to her. She is now on my step-father's health insurance, but my mother gets money monthly from the state. So, I am now a stay at home mom and MY HUSBAND has to pay 300 dollars a month in child support. I don't know where to begin to get my daughter back. We are perfectly capable of taking care of her and want her with us, esp. since my husband will be out of the Marine Corps. soon and we will be moving to his hometown in Alabama. I am very excited about the move, but I don't want to leave without my daughter or have a custody proccess going. She needs to be with us, and with her brother. She loves my mom and step-father, but that is what she knows. I also see her and talk to her and she knows I am mom and she loves me and she loves my husband (not her father) and her little brother. Plus, my mom goes to concerts a lot, she's going on a cruise, and she expects ME to drop my life in San Diego to come up to Irvine and take care of my daughter. Why can't she come to my house? I have to uproot my son and leave my husband. I don't see that fair. I lead a stable household and I don't go out the
way she does. I do go out, but every mom needs a break. Most of my time is spent here at home with my family...the people who mean the most to me. I wish I could just talk to my mom, but she is very intimidating and who knows what she would do. She beat me as a child....she has some screws lose. I love my mother but have lost a lot of respect for her, and I know she will lie and have my family believe her and they will all be on her side. Will that make it hard for me to get my daughter back? Where do I start?
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!
Thank you!!

 

[nofear2]

You have to start by talking with a lawyer. You will probably have to go to court to change the guardianship, but your first step is to talk to a lawyer as soon as possible. Don't wait.

 

[Duranie]

I have no idea why you would ever give your daughter to them, or sign over guardianship especially if she threatened to kill you. You need to call around and see an attorney NOW. Where is the father of that child?

You need to talk to a lawyer and file for custody. The longer you wait the harder it is to get the child back. The child is already 3 and has been living with grandma for a while.

 

[Marinewifey226]

Thank you...My husband and I are going to JAG on Tuesday and talking to a lawyer and proceeding with this. We talked about it tonight and I have a lot on her, esp. the fact that she threatened me and plus I am the mother and I AM in NO WAY unfit. She may be 3 years old, but she knows mommy and wants to be with mommy. Her dad is not in the picture. It's all on me and my husband. I just have to have faith and go into this head on and not be afriad of my mother anymore. That is what got me into this mess in the first place. I don't think she would do anything to hurt me, but I didn't know and I have to be here for my kids...I want to be here for my kids...they are my world...she has her own. I just don't get it. I guess it will all come out in court.
Wish us Luck....thanks!!

 

[nofear2]

Good Luck!!!