Living options as a teen...
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army judge
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If a person does what you suggest a woman is doing to her child, she won't succeed.
Children aren't property or chattel.
Parents and/or guardians don't get to gift their children.
I suggest you encourage the girl to speak with a trusted adult about her mother's plans to get rid of her.
If the girl trusts no one, have her tell her story to the police or sheriff.
She might get placed into foster care, or the care of another relative, because her current situation must be very hard for her.
My heart goes out to the girl, I hope she gets the help she needs to grow up to become a fine, young woman.
mightymoose
Moderator
It won't happen. Not legally anyway. If the situation is that bad maybe social services should be involved.
Betty3
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Is there a bio Dad involved in the child's life? (seems not)
shrinkmaster
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Where is the Father? He would have first option for custody.
army judge
Super Moderator
Yes, sir, the father would certainly be a logical candidate for custody.
The father might have never known he is the father.
The father might have already has his rights stripped.
The father might not be able to properly carry out the duties of a parent because he's imprisoned, incapacitated by some disease or mental health related condition, or any number of other reasons.
This is one of those stories that troubles me personally.
The world certainly has many, many, many people that are hurting.
Its especially troubling to see children suffer, and I'm sure the mother is hurting, too.
Guardianship is a possibility. My parents were the legal guardians of my brother's friend. His parents lived in a different state. Until 18, you live where your parents say you live. If there is cause to involve CPS, it should be reported. It isn't clear why Mom doesn't want the daughter living with her any longer but there are any number of reasons which might be valid.
I have known a few people who have "gifted" a child to someone by signing over guardianship. One was a friend of my son's...when the boys were about 15, the parents kicked the son out of their house for some small infraction. He spent the night with us for a few days before I realized the reason he was still hanging out at our place was because his mother told him he couldn't come home. He then went and stayed with another friend's family, and his mother gave the mother in that household legal guardianship, apparently with very little fuss involved legally.
Betty3
Well-Known Member
Mom can talk to a lawyer I guess. I sure would like to know about the bio Dad though maybe nothing is known.
army judge
Super Moderator
In the old days, it was a common practice for an older woman and man (married of course) to claim parentage of children born out of wedlock, rename the little darling, raising it to adulthood as their very own kid.
The child was sometimes raised in the same home as the sibling of the girl who gave birth to it.
Whispers and rumor abounded, but discretely so, unlike today's hubbub.
How do I know?
I'm old enough to have been sworn to secrecy at about age 10 or 11, as I witnessed this cover up a couple of times.
My mother and father also told me about such things occurring as they were growing up.
I had a classmate who was raised by his grandparents after he was born out of wedlock in the mid-1950's, he was told that his grandparents were his parents and his mother was his sister. And when I was in high school we had a couple of girls disappear for a period of time during the school year and then rather suddenly have their parents turn up with a new baby "sibling" for them, and this was in the 1970's!
cbg
Super Moderator
I had a co-worker a few years back who had learned at the age of 13 that her "sister" was actually her mother, her parents were her grandparents, and we won't address the question of her father since this is a family forum.
army judge
Super Moderator
The world remains a very complex places filled with dirty little secrets and lies.
I remember a couple of classmates that disappeared throughout my high school years.
There was talk of the girls being boarded at "The Florence Crittendon Home for Wayward Girls".
It was a grand, lovely, old Victorian style home.
When I visit my hometown, I always take time to admire it.
The home maintains a beautiful rose garden.
http://www.florencecrittenton.org/content/
Life was different back then, or was it?
I think we delude ourselves into believing what helps us get through it.
No matter how many times I hear stories like the OP's, or variations thereof, I'm taken aback and saddened.
disagreeable
Well-Known Member
Why does everyone here mistakenly think mom, if dad is not in the picture, cannot assign temporary guardianship to a friend in another state? It happens all the time.
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