My friend is currently awaiting divorce papers before retaining a lawyer. She is also running herself ragged worrying that her soon to be ex-husband will take their 2 children away from her. I try to be encouraging, but my legal knowledge is very limited. Simply put, her husband was physically and mentally abusive towards her and her son(from another relationship) during their stay overseas and two US locations. Because they were both military, she got out because she didn't want to keep explaining to her superiors about the bruises that appeared on her. Thanks to her mother, the abuse was logged in those three locations. Unfortunately, it did take a toll on her; she has attempted suicide 3or 4 times...(while he was gone and she and the girls lived in shelters-he left her for other women then returned each time). If there is a next time, the doctors said she will lose her son and their 2 daughters.....My first hand knowledge in this is that he takes no interest in his daughters now. He is still in the army, and he lives only 30 minutes and works less than 10 minutes away from his girls. We have taken them to the ER on post on five occassions, called him to tell him, and he doesn't call until 6 or 7 days later--he has the hospital notifying him when and why they visit. He wants custody to give the girls to his mother in another state. He comes on payday (once/month) and gives her $250. That is not a big issue ... she works 40 hrs every wk and still spends at least five hours playing helping with homework sitting down to dinner fixing hair painting nails with them I CALL HER SUPERMOM and although she's struggling they have everything they need except their father. When I watch them every other SAt when she has to work they cry for him. He has my number and knows where I live & where they go to school, yet he doesn't bother to call or stop by. One SAT the girls were supposed to stay overnight with him. After 1 hour he brought them back to me and said he was tired and left..oh how did they cry. In the 7 months that I've known them, He has come to their house 4 times and spent a total of 3 hours with them. My heart began to break when my friend had to take the youngest daughter to the ER b/c she fell at school. She knew she had to get her checked out, but she was afraid to take her b/c he would call her and blast her about it and threaten to take full custody so they can go to his mom...according to my friend his mom is in the same mental state as she is. They take the same medications for depression( zoloft, prozac,& 5 others) She still functions like a fulltime stay at home mom, works 40hrs each week, and is young enough to deal with her extremely active children each with a separate issue of their own...His mom is in her 60's and was released from a mental rest home recently.
Is there a real possibility he can take them from her? I think she's waiting too long to get a lawyer, but I know she's saving up $$ to get one. Should she get one now-will it help? What should she do?
Is there a real possibility he can take them from her? I think she's waiting too long to get a lawyer, but I know she's saving up $$ to get one. Should she get one now-will it help? What should she do?