Is sexual orientation an issue here?

[Shawnah]

So I have recently fell in love with a woman, which is new to the both of us. She is divorced, or almost completely divorced I should say, and has three children. I moved in with her and as of right now she has shared custody with the three children (ages; 6, 3, and 1). The father, who in my opinion is an unfit human being, has threatened her of taking custody of the children due to him finding out about us. There is a past of his behavior and his behavior even without the children now, I feel shows his character. Where as in our home we show nothing at all in front of the children when it comes to our relationship, or let alone either of our sexual orientation, unless shareing a bed is considered one. There are thoughts being planted in the eldest child while in the other household, and questions being asked to receive information from our home. Which there is nothing to be told, but this is also a six year old, where things I feel are being put into her head. Im not making accusations but this is the situation and we would like to know any legal advice possible. Thank you for reading and your time.


-ME

 

[Proserpina]

Let Mom deal with her divorce.

Dad has equal rights to his children as Mom. He's equally entitled to custody.

My advice to you is to take a step back; you've already mentioned that YOU think that Dad is unfit but Mom obviously saw him as absolutely acceptable Daddy material. She can't change her mind now.

I know this is very difficult for you, but seriously - take a step back. You can actually harm Mom's chances at custody if you become overly involved. The best way you can help is helping Mom find a decent attorney to make sure her parental rights aren't going to be trampled based upon her sexuality.

 

[Shawnah]

I appreciate your response. But I think that might be part of the reason that she was trying to leave to begin with. He has already spent time in jail for domestic "situations". I am just trying to help her, im not involved besides helping my partner to find advice, and ease in the situation. But REAL legal advice would be greatly appreciated. Advice that she can use, besides knowing that he has rights as well. thanks!

 

[Proserpina]

As opposed to unreal advice?

You've been given accurate information. Mom's sexuality should NOT adversely affect her rights, but if Dad wishes to use it as leverage - as he's obviously trying to do - Mom needs to speak with an attorney.

Specially as she's committing adultery.

 

[Duranie]

Mom moving in so soon with a new partner is a bad idea, regardless of sexual orientation. Dad has a right to be upset. The kids should not be exposed to anyone this early on. Dad can threaten all he wants mom does not have to listen to him. If he has joint cusotdy now that probably will not change. You have alot on your plate getting involved with a woman with 3 young kids not even divorced yet.