How do I protect my Son?

[gram223]

My daughter gave birth to a baby boy 2-23-09 the father of the baby has denied and caused her much unneeded stress through out her whole pregnancy. Now that she had a boy He has filed a paternity test and my daughter was served papers today. She has never denied him to see the baby however he has a drug problem and was coming and asking to visit late at night and it got to be too much because my daughter works full time and needed rest to get up to go to work early in morning. So the father has never been back by or called to visit since he is angry. This man's mother ( the grandmother) has asked to see baby and my daughter has brought the baby on many occasions to see her.
The grandmother had a falling out with the baby's father and kicked him out of her house due to drug issues and not working. She met with my daughter to let her know he is a liar and has a drug issue then 3 days later takes him back into her home enabling him. Well my daughter is very uncomfortable now letting her or the father see the baby due to the drug issues and disrespect and enabling .

So because she told the grandmother that she wasn't comfortable they went to court and had paternity papers filed and served to my daughter
As it is my daughter has been supporting the baby herslef with no help -the baby has my daughters last name and the father is not mentioned on birth certificate at all due to him not wanting to be involved and denying he is the father. My daughter is fearful of letting him have visitation rights Can you advise what she should do .

Is there anything she should be worried about any advice would be appreciated
How can she prove the drug use

 

[luvsspike]

My experience leads me to believe that if he is the biological father, there is very little you can do to deny him access to the baby. If DNA proves he is the father, he could be granted supervised visitation rights even if he is found to have drugs in his system. The grandmother has her own rights as well. If this goes to court, you can probably request a drug test, but your daughter will also have to take one as well. My exhusband was found with drugs in his system and joint custody was changed to supervised visitation for 2 months...2 clean tests and he was back with joint custody.

 

[Duranie]

Your daughter chose him to have a baby with so he does have rights. There is nothing she can do if Dad wants paternity established. She can certainly ask for supervised visits which is totally reasonable for now. She can try asking him to get drug tested as well. Mom might want to call legal aid to see if they can help her.