can you tell me just how difficult and expensive it is to get grandparents visitation? the kids are two and six months old and its going to be a messy divorce
Its highly unlikely that you will get your own visitation. You will have to visit when your son/daughter gets the children. It would seem that adults could put aside animosity so that the children can see the Grandparents. Sorry to hear about the nasty divorce.
Grandparents don't have custodial rights unless they are legal guardians... but then it wouldn't even be an issue.
The animosity is between the parents... if you are on good terms with the other parent you might be surprised to find out they are more than willing to allow visitation.
The grandparent is expected to see the child on that parents parenting time. Why would you think grandparents would get automatic visitation? Time to be civil with mom or dad and hope they allow visits. Do not take sides ib the divorce, that is a really good way to make sure you never see the kids.