grandmother vs. mom

[maddmom]

i am 26. i had my son when i was 14, we both lived with my mom until i was 21. i am from a very small town in tx. i moved to a larger town with more opportunity when i was 21. my son stayed w/ my mom. we both agreed that i would move him with me when i could support both of us. i have ALWAYS been in my sons life. i am "mom" and she is "mimi". abt 1 yr ago i told my mom that i am ready for my son to live with me. he just turned 11 in May. i am married, i have been at my job 3 yrs, i have no other children, i dont use drugs or even drink. my mom has NEVER supported my decision to move my son in w/ me. she begged me not to. i moved him up here on 8/11/09. on that day she told me, "this isnt over". he started school up here on 8/24/09. he went to school that mon, tues, and wed. on thursday morning my husband took my son to school i came straight hm after wrk that day as usual. when i got out of my car i was served w/ papers and a restraining order. my mom is sueing me for custody. she came and withdrew him from school and the school didnt even call me. i was in SHOCK. we had our 1st temporary hearing on 9/8/09 and the judge gave her temp custody b/c he has A.D.D. and has lived in her house for the past 5 yrs. my mom has nothing negative to say abt me, she just wants him to stay in her house and go to school down there. i feel betrayed and i know she is telling my son too much abt this case. he even knew abt the restraining order. my sons father is in jail and has never really been involved. i only live and hr and a half away. and i never tried to keep my mom away from my son. i even told her that she can come stay w/ us during the week b/c she only wrks weekends. i am very mature. i left my son w/ my mom back then b/c at that time it was in his best intrest. now i belive it is in his best intrest to live w/ me and his step-father. we both love him very much... pls give me any advise or opinions, thank you

 

[jharris352]

There is an idea of "permanency" in juvenile law. If what you have told us is the entire case you should prevail. You need an attorney, quick. Don't make statements to anyone and tell your attorney everything. Your custody rights should not be abridged because you , in the best interest of the child, let him live with his grandmother for 5 years.

Good luck.

 

[Duranie]

I would like to chime in here. The courts awarded her temporary custody because the boy has been living with her for 5 years. You really have to prove a change of circumstance. The courts may feel it is not in the kids best interest to move him from grandmas home at this time. The order is just temporary. Do you have an attorney? You need one.