Going Out Of My Mind!!!

[brian4975]

Can I get some advice? I have a daughter, she is with my wife. My wife does not work, has never worked and lives off of the child support that I pay her every month. She lives with her mother and step-father approximately 2 hours away from where I live. By living with them, they believe that they can control my ex-wife, who I honestly try to maintain a good relationship with. Most of the time, I can get my daughter, with no problems, sometimes, the grandparents are pressuring her to say no and she feels at their mercy. Here is my main concern. I absolutely do not get along with my parents, who live less than a mile from my home. I do not want my daughter with them or around them unless I know about it. Just to get under my skin, they continue to speak back and forth to my parents and coordinate her going to their house without my knowledge. She has been here in this town since Tuesday of this week without me knowing about it. My ex-wife says that she can't say anything, because she has no where else to live or go. I have asked them many times to please respect my wishes and contact me before they turn my daughter over to anyone in this town other than me. They could care less how I feel. We do not have legal papers stating custody. I have not pushed the issue because I was told that going to court would only hurt me because the judge will issues limited visitation and then they would only let me see her during those times when now, I can see her whenever. What should I do? I do not want her with my parents without my knowledge. I do not want her in this town without my knowledge. I cannot afford a lawyer. I'm struggling in the economy like everyone else.

 

[brian4975]

One more thing.......if my daughter comes into town and I find out, should I go there and take possession of her every time? I'm tired of the fighting and I don't want to put on a show in front of my daughter.

 

[Duranie]

Sorry but the inlaws are free to allow your parents to see the child. If your ex wfie allows it there is nothing you can do. Also your ex is required to follow a visitation schedule and just because she lives with her parents it does not mean they get to interfere. I hope you get to claim the child on taxes since you are the only one supporting the child. Make sure her parents do not try to claim her.

 

[brian4975]

I actually have not been able to claim her on my taxes. My ex-wife's stepfather claims her every year. A couple of years ago, my tax prep. told me that it was my right. I called my ex and told her what he said and she told me to go ahead. It made her stepfather so angry that he claimed her too and now I have to pay back all that extra money.

 

[Duranie]

You need to get a court order allowing you to claim. Unless the order gives you the tax deduction, you cannot claim but you have a chance of getting it since mom does not work.