I will tell my whole story, and I would appreciate any advice I can get. This is not a anti-woman post.
I had 3 kids with my ex wife. Things went bad, so I filed for divorce. I voluntarily paid 900.00 a month in child support plus extras. I make about 2800.00 a month, and the court makes me now pay1800.00 a month in child support. Well that put me out of my home, landed me back in court for backpay, ect. My ex never answers my phone calls for visitation. She does not let them come visit or anything. I went with the police and they said that cant make her let the kids come, or vice versa me her. I asked them "so what do I do? I pay 1800.00 a month in child support for kids I cannot even be a part of". The police told me to file a report, but its not worth the money im going to spend on court cost. They said the judge will just slap her on her hand forever. They will not do anything about her not letting me see the kids.
(The rest is me just venting)
1st off I cannot afford to live on my own anymore, because Im paying more child support than I can afford. If I lose my car I wont be able to work, and that will for sure land me in jail. Im paying all this money for Kids I cannot even see, or participate in their lives. The wife is in a cultic apostolic religion. The kids cannot watch TV, they cant talk to their cousins that do not attend the church anymore, they are all attending a school where they will never even get a real diploma (its like home schooling). I care for my kids. I dont like they way they are being raised, I cant do anything about it, and my life is going to pot because the man is getting completely shafted without a chance in hell to make it ever again.
I mean is it always the guys fault that things didnt work out? Is that why the court system just condems the man to death? There are no breaks for us. I mean if your wife goes out and cheats on you. You decide to divorce, you goto court and get smeared. Once you are married, thats it ...you are screwed. It just does not add up. The laws should be more fair. The women are just as capable to make a living as the men are. I despise deadbeat dads. Im willing to do anything for my children, but if im not given a fair chance at this then what is my purpose here? What do I do?
I had 3 kids with my ex wife. Things went bad, so I filed for divorce. I voluntarily paid 900.00 a month in child support plus extras. I make about 2800.00 a month, and the court makes me now pay1800.00 a month in child support. Well that put me out of my home, landed me back in court for backpay, ect. My ex never answers my phone calls for visitation. She does not let them come visit or anything. I went with the police and they said that cant make her let the kids come, or vice versa me her. I asked them "so what do I do? I pay 1800.00 a month in child support for kids I cannot even be a part of". The police told me to file a report, but its not worth the money im going to spend on court cost. They said the judge will just slap her on her hand forever. They will not do anything about her not letting me see the kids.
(The rest is me just venting)
1st off I cannot afford to live on my own anymore, because Im paying more child support than I can afford. If I lose my car I wont be able to work, and that will for sure land me in jail. Im paying all this money for Kids I cannot even see, or participate in their lives. The wife is in a cultic apostolic religion. The kids cannot watch TV, they cant talk to their cousins that do not attend the church anymore, they are all attending a school where they will never even get a real diploma (its like home schooling). I care for my kids. I dont like they way they are being raised, I cant do anything about it, and my life is going to pot because the man is getting completely shafted without a chance in hell to make it ever again.
I mean is it always the guys fault that things didnt work out? Is that why the court system just condems the man to death? There are no breaks for us. I mean if your wife goes out and cheats on you. You decide to divorce, you goto court and get smeared. Once you are married, thats it ...you are screwed. It just does not add up. The laws should be more fair. The women are just as capable to make a living as the men are. I despise deadbeat dads. Im willing to do anything for my children, but if im not given a fair chance at this then what is my purpose here? What do I do?
