fathers rights as custodial parent

[buggy82nys]

my husband has had physical custody of his two children ages 9 and 11 for 6 years. the birth mother has been very speratic with visitation. court order has been everyother sunday 10am til 5 pm. when she has appropriate houseing she would than have the children from 5pm saturday til 5pm sunday. she has never had appropriate housing (last summer she lived in a tent of her former foster mother yard). we have over the years been very accomidating for her schedule. always showing up at the foster mothers house to visit with children on non visit days, not having them home on time or picking them up on time. she at this point does not have any holiday visitaions scheduled, she overlooked that the last time she took us to court for more visitation. do we have the right to take her back to court and have visitation limited more to our needs and the childrens at this point. we have always kept track of missed visits and such. what are our options at this point? we also recieve a small contribution for child support mainley to make her responsible for her children should we take her back to court to revise that since we haven't done so in about 5 years?

 

[jharris352]

Other than your convenience, what is the "need" of the children to limit visitation with their mother? And why would you take advantage of the fact that the Mother "overlooked" holiday visits when she took you to court last time? Isn't it just the right thing to do to allow her holiday visits? Do you need a court order for that?

The mother lives in a tent. You want child support from her?

I hope I'm reading all of this right, the inclusion of the "foster mother" is somewhat confusing to me. Sorry.

But I'm of the opinion that you only really need the court involved if the adults in the situation can't arrive at a reasonable conclusion themselves. You don't really need a referee do you? Just work it out with the Mom.

I doubt seriously a Judge is going to further limit her visitation because it is more convenient for you to do so.

I hope you guys work everything out without a Judge.

 

[Duranie]

I agree, non custodial parents are not required to use their visits. It does not m ake sense to try and limit mom even more. Sounds like a power trip to me.