I am in iowa, my ex is in north carolina.
My ex is no longer taking care of our son. She gave him to her mother back in june and i was not even informed of it until two months later. I would call to see how he was doing and the ex would just say fine and then say she was busy or something along th elines and hang up. Finally i called her mom to find out what was going on and was finally informed that she now had custody of my son. She filed a complaint on both me and my ex (her daughter) and then filed paper work asking us to both sign over custody to her. My ex signed, stating she agrees she is an unfit mother and that she wants to be free to be a kid still (she is 20). I refused to sign. So far i have not recieved any court papers to further this action. I want custody of my son. I am currently paying child support and i call every week at the least in an attempt to be there for my son as much as possible. (he is 10 months old btw) I went to NC to visit, was there for a week, and was only allowed to see my son 2 hours. I got to hold him for 5 minutes, the rest of the time i was not allowed to take him, hold him, or see him at all (my ex and his grandma would not allow me). That week we had another hearing for childsupport (which the ex still recieves) and it was upped from 149.00 to 503.00. I did the calculation thing and it should be only 149.80 but they counted my over time over one summer month and said that is how much i make on a regular basis. I have never missed a payment and i am a very fit parent. I have a job, a vehicle, a house, don't do drugs or drink, two other kids and I am a wonderful father to all of my kids. So, there was no reason to not allow me to see my son. and now, that i am back from NC, the grandma will not answer or return any of my phone calls. What can i do about getting custody? I am currently trying to get a lawyer but its kinda hard with the hours i work and me being in iowa. But i am trying as hard as i possibly can to make this work. my son deserves to be with a parent and obviously his mother is unfit and has even admitted to it. Please give me any advice. what can i do? if anything? I'm tired of not being allowed to know my son when i have every right and he deserves to know me.
My ex is no longer taking care of our son. She gave him to her mother back in june and i was not even informed of it until two months later. I would call to see how he was doing and the ex would just say fine and then say she was busy or something along th elines and hang up. Finally i called her mom to find out what was going on and was finally informed that she now had custody of my son. She filed a complaint on both me and my ex (her daughter) and then filed paper work asking us to both sign over custody to her. My ex signed, stating she agrees she is an unfit mother and that she wants to be free to be a kid still (she is 20). I refused to sign. So far i have not recieved any court papers to further this action. I want custody of my son. I am currently paying child support and i call every week at the least in an attempt to be there for my son as much as possible. (he is 10 months old btw) I went to NC to visit, was there for a week, and was only allowed to see my son 2 hours. I got to hold him for 5 minutes, the rest of the time i was not allowed to take him, hold him, or see him at all (my ex and his grandma would not allow me). That week we had another hearing for childsupport (which the ex still recieves) and it was upped from 149.00 to 503.00. I did the calculation thing and it should be only 149.80 but they counted my over time over one summer month and said that is how much i make on a regular basis. I have never missed a payment and i am a very fit parent. I have a job, a vehicle, a house, don't do drugs or drink, two other kids and I am a wonderful father to all of my kids. So, there was no reason to not allow me to see my son. and now, that i am back from NC, the grandma will not answer or return any of my phone calls. What can i do about getting custody? I am currently trying to get a lawyer but its kinda hard with the hours i work and me being in iowa. But i am trying as hard as i possibly can to make this work. my son deserves to be with a parent and obviously his mother is unfit and has even admitted to it. Please give me any advice. what can i do? if anything? I'm tired of not being allowed to know my son when i have every right and he deserves to know me.
