Hi,
I hope someone can give me some advice. I am in the process of purchasing a home with my fiance. We are at the beginning stages - getting the mortgage and looking for a place. Here's the facts:
- my daughter went to see her father for summer vacation in NY, I reside in MD.
-I have full custody, he gets visitation.
- The actual "home purchase" will take about two months, from offer to closing. Originally we thought we would have a home by the second week in Sept. - it's not happening.
- I moved in a few weeks ago with my fiance to save for the house and he has a studio apt.
- Classes started today.
Based on the above, I decided she should have a stable environment and move in with my parents for a semester in Puerto Rico and have the additional benefits of a private school, bilingual education and private tutoring. I told my ex this morning and he said I couldn't do that. That I'm not providing a stable environment for my daughter. Last year, I lived with my sister to pay off some bills then I moved in with a roommate so my daughter went to two different schools. That also influenced my decision because I don't want to move her around so much. This way she can build friendships she'll keep and see every year since she has been going to PR every summer for the past 7 years. My ex then called my mom and told her that what I was doing is illegal and that he wasn't going to allow it. He wants my daughter to stay with him for the school year. I don't really want this because he lives in the Bronx, works nights as a musician, is underemployed/usually unemployed during the day and leaves most of the child rearing to his mom. He also owes me over $10,000 in back child support.
My concern: that he'll keep her and not give her back to me. I have enough problems trying to enforce child support from a different state. She was supposed to fly out on Thursday from JFK to PR. Can he legally prevent this? What rights do we each have?
Please advise. Thank you.
ninasmom
I hope someone can give me some advice. I am in the process of purchasing a home with my fiance. We are at the beginning stages - getting the mortgage and looking for a place. Here's the facts:
- my daughter went to see her father for summer vacation in NY, I reside in MD.
-I have full custody, he gets visitation.
- The actual "home purchase" will take about two months, from offer to closing. Originally we thought we would have a home by the second week in Sept. - it's not happening.
- I moved in a few weeks ago with my fiance to save for the house and he has a studio apt.
- Classes started today.
Based on the above, I decided she should have a stable environment and move in with my parents for a semester in Puerto Rico and have the additional benefits of a private school, bilingual education and private tutoring. I told my ex this morning and he said I couldn't do that. That I'm not providing a stable environment for my daughter. Last year, I lived with my sister to pay off some bills then I moved in with a roommate so my daughter went to two different schools. That also influenced my decision because I don't want to move her around so much. This way she can build friendships she'll keep and see every year since she has been going to PR every summer for the past 7 years. My ex then called my mom and told her that what I was doing is illegal and that he wasn't going to allow it. He wants my daughter to stay with him for the school year. I don't really want this because he lives in the Bronx, works nights as a musician, is underemployed/usually unemployed during the day and leaves most of the child rearing to his mom. He also owes me over $10,000 in back child support.
My concern: that he'll keep her and not give her back to me. I have enough problems trying to enforce child support from a different state. She was supposed to fly out on Thursday from JFK to PR. Can he legally prevent this? What rights do we each have?
Please advise. Thank you.
ninasmom