Concerns and Questions.

[jessebran1108]

My sister is going to be 17 October first and is threatening my parents that she will be moving out. My sister has a job but is not really mature enough to handle herself in the "real world". My mother is worried about this and does not know what to do. Is there anything that she can do to prevent my sister from leaving or any actions that she should take before my sister turns 17 to avoid this issue all together?

Thanks!

 

[shrinkmaster]

They cant chained her to her room if thats what you mean. If she leaves against parent wishes they (your parents) can contact Police and its possible anyone giving her a place to stay could face legal consequences.

 

[army judge]

My sister is going to be 17 October first and is threatening my parents that she will be moving out. My sister has a job but is not really mature enough to handle herself in the "real world". My mother is worried about this and does not know what to do. Is there anything that she can do to prevent my sister from leaving or any actions that she should take before my sister turns 17 to avoid this issue all together?

Thanks!

Shrinkmaster provided you with excellent advice.

I have a couple questions for you and mother to consider.

I suggest you ask mother, "Mother, you don't think sister is mature enough at the moment to live on her own, right? At 18, she legally becomes an adult. That's only one year away, so will sister be mature enough at age 18, in your view to live alone? If not, what can we do now to help her reach a level of maturity so that she can be an independent, successful adult?"

 

[cbg]

Missouri is one of those states where an anomoly in the law means that law enforcement may be reluctant to return home a 17 year old who is in a safe place and whose parents know where they are.

That does not mean that Mom and Dad can't go themselves to wherever your sister is staying and bring her home themselves. They may not be able to chain her to the bed but they can remove the door to her bedroom, take away her cell phone, computer, internet privileges other than as needed for school, require that all homework be done under their supervision in the living room or dining room, ground her little ass until she turns 18, and quite a host of other things to make sure she stays where she belongs.

That does not make AJ's response any less an excellent one. Nor does it mean that Mom and Dad can't file a legal complaint against anyone that your sister stays with against their wishes. She is still a minor at 17; she still lives where Mom and Dad say she lives.