Hi my name is Sarah and i'm a young single mother. My daughter is only 7 months old and already her father has changed his mind back and forth as to whether he wants to have his daughter in his life. He has another girlfriend already and shes made threats to me. I'm wondering if it would be possible for me to go for primary custody of my daughter and maybe let him have SUPERVISED visits. He currently lives with his mother and the apartment is way under par for my standards as to where my baby would be staying and i would like to keep her out of that environment also. Also, if he refuses visitation rights under these circumstances, can I sue him for child support?
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ohiogranny
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If you were never married to him, you already have sole custody. It's up to him to establish his rights (paternity, visitation, and support obligation). You don't have to allow contact without a court order.
But, if he files in court, he will get visitation. Your standards for a residence are probably way higher than the court/CPS. If this gf is not a threat to the child, he can have her around whoever he likes. What has she threatened you with? If it's serious, get a restraining order on her.
You can sue for support any time, but be prepared for him to demand his rights when you do. And once he gets them, he can exercise them, or not, it's his choice. Just remember support is totally separate from visitation. Once court ordered, you can't withhold visits if he doesn't pay.
But, if he files in court, he will get visitation. Your standards for a residence are probably way higher than the court/CPS. If this gf is not a threat to the child, he can have her around whoever he likes. What has she threatened you with? If it's serious, get a restraining order on her.
You can sue for support any time, but be prepared for him to demand his rights when you do. And once he gets them, he can exercise them, or not, it's his choice. Just remember support is totally separate from visitation. Once court ordered, you can't withhold visits if he doesn't pay.
thats good news. thank you, i'm relieved. the problem i have with the apartment where he resides is that theres often pennies or chicken bones on the floor along with other garbage and such. Also, I believe the threat was she was going to get my address and "shoot up" my house.
He is the dad and he does have rights. You can ask for supoervised visits but they will not last forever. You have not demonstrated anything that shows him or his girlfriend is a danger to the child. The apt they live in does not have to meet up to your standards. You probably have a good case for supervised but you are not going to eliminate him from the childs life completely.
oh no the point is not to eliminate him from her life completely, i just don't want his girlfriend in her life and i would like to go for supervised visits because i don't feel comfortable leaving her alone in his care. He doesn't have a clue what to do with her because he really hasn't spent much time with her at all since she was born.
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