Tonite, my boyfriend told me he received a letter from the State of Kansas saying that the state was going to increase his child support payments. I was not aware that he was making child support statements, nor that he had a child...
Here is the story as he relayed it to me.
Fifteen years ago a girl he had sex with twice got pregnant. He learned shortly thereafter that she was in a sexual relationship with three other people around the same time. She told the state that my boyfriend, Stephen, was the father. At the time a blood test was done that, according to the state, confirmed his paternity. At the time of the blood test he asked the child services representative about a DNA test but was ignored. He was told that he was the father and that there was nothing he could do about it but that he must start paying child support. He may or may not have signed something (he can't remember) but if he did he believes at the time he was told he had no choice. His father called the child support agency regarding proving paternity and was threatened to 'drop it'.
My boyfriend has been paying child support since the child was born (15 years). He was never in a relationship with this woman (she was dating somebody else when he had sex with her) and he never tried to marry her. He has never seen the child. The mother has told other people that the child was not his.
Because he was told he had no choice but to pay the support and was told by child services that he could not see the child, he has not pursued it until now.
He has paid around 50,000 $ in child support. He plans on requesting a DNA test. My questions are these - if the child is not his, will he have to continue paying child support? Is he entitled to be reimbursed for the child support he paid? If so would it be the responsibility of the state or the responsibility of the mother? If the child is his can he request a meeting with the child?
Here is the story as he relayed it to me.
Fifteen years ago a girl he had sex with twice got pregnant. He learned shortly thereafter that she was in a sexual relationship with three other people around the same time. She told the state that my boyfriend, Stephen, was the father. At the time a blood test was done that, according to the state, confirmed his paternity. At the time of the blood test he asked the child services representative about a DNA test but was ignored. He was told that he was the father and that there was nothing he could do about it but that he must start paying child support. He may or may not have signed something (he can't remember) but if he did he believes at the time he was told he had no choice. His father called the child support agency regarding proving paternity and was threatened to 'drop it'.
My boyfriend has been paying child support since the child was born (15 years). He was never in a relationship with this woman (she was dating somebody else when he had sex with her) and he never tried to marry her. He has never seen the child. The mother has told other people that the child was not his.
Because he was told he had no choice but to pay the support and was told by child services that he could not see the child, he has not pursued it until now.
He has paid around 50,000 $ in child support. He plans on requesting a DNA test. My questions are these - if the child is not his, will he have to continue paying child support? Is he entitled to be reimbursed for the child support he paid? If so would it be the responsibility of the state or the responsibility of the mother? If the child is his can he request a meeting with the child?
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