Change in custody

[kamala25]

2 and a half years ago my ex-husband and I seperated. We had talked about shared custody which I verbally agreed to. He was unable to take the kids half time, and a court order was set for him to have them every other weekend. (4 nights per month). In these past 2 and a half years he has shown no interest in spendig any extra time with the kids. He even has taken approx. 6 weeks of vacation in that time and never spent a day of it with them. Now all of a sudden he wants shared custody, just because he put two beds in his basement for them. I am a bit hesitant about them going from 4 nights/ month to 15 nights/ month. When I suggested a test period to see howe they adjust of one night per week extra, he said he would fight me to get nothing but split custody and even threatened to say that my mother is medically incompentent to babysit and that he would also be auditing me. He also lives 40 minutes away from their school district and can't pick them up until 5:30 p.m. He takes classes 2-3 nights/week, in addition to working every other Sat. I am a teacher and have off when the kids do. Can he really follow through with the threats he is making? I offered a temporary agreement prior to the threats, but now I don't even want to follow through with that after how he is treating me (the agreement was made verbally and through email, not through the courts) I am not sure what I should do!!!!

 

[Duranie]

Stop listening to him. It is very rare to get 50% total shared parenting. He has rareyl spent time with ther kids so the courtd probably are not going to give him 50% shared. Do you have an attorney?

 

[kamala25]

attorney

No, I do not have an attorney, but I have made an appt. to get legal advice.