charlieblake
New Member
Hi,
In what is obviously a long story, I will try to get to the point:
I gave my son up for adoption when I was 17.
The attorney I called, did not disclose to me that she was really the attorney for the adoptive parents. I called her. I thought she was my attorney looking out for my best interests. Once in her office, she gave me a album full of people to look at and to "choose the parents" based on the information she gave me. I chose an attractive, wealthy looking couple that I was told held careers as a special education teacher and attorney. Before giving up the baby for adoption, the attorney gave me a letter verifying what the adoptive parents had agreed to (monthly pictures, to be notified if child became seriously ill, or if parents died i would be notified and given the opportunity for custody, etc.) Yes, I know how stupid it sounds now to have believed that, but I thought if and attorney put it in writing, it was solid.
Fast forward 20 years. My son has found me. The parents I picked out are NOT the parents that adopted him. The dad was 30 years older in real life- the pictures aren't even of the real people. They were never a teacher or an attorney.
This is not what I would have chosen. My son is now struggling to pay for college and while I know that money doesn't mean everything, it was the lure of a more stable financial future for him that made me consider adoption in the first place. As an aside, the mother is now on her third marriage.
Is there a way to sue the attorney for fraud or malpractice?
Thanks so much for reading a long post. I am located in Oklahoma, which is where the adoption took place. Any guidance would be greatly appreciated.
In what is obviously a long story, I will try to get to the point:
I gave my son up for adoption when I was 17.
The attorney I called, did not disclose to me that she was really the attorney for the adoptive parents. I called her. I thought she was my attorney looking out for my best interests. Once in her office, she gave me a album full of people to look at and to "choose the parents" based on the information she gave me. I chose an attractive, wealthy looking couple that I was told held careers as a special education teacher and attorney. Before giving up the baby for adoption, the attorney gave me a letter verifying what the adoptive parents had agreed to (monthly pictures, to be notified if child became seriously ill, or if parents died i would be notified and given the opportunity for custody, etc.) Yes, I know how stupid it sounds now to have believed that, but I thought if and attorney put it in writing, it was solid.
Fast forward 20 years. My son has found me. The parents I picked out are NOT the parents that adopted him. The dad was 30 years older in real life- the pictures aren't even of the real people. They were never a teacher or an attorney.
This is not what I would have chosen. My son is now struggling to pay for college and while I know that money doesn't mean everything, it was the lure of a more stable financial future for him that made me consider adoption in the first place. As an aside, the mother is now on her third marriage.
Is there a way to sue the attorney for fraud or malpractice?
Thanks so much for reading a long post. I am located in Oklahoma, which is where the adoption took place. Any guidance would be greatly appreciated.
